Questions tagged [relationships]
Questions related to personal relationships in a work context.
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If your coworkers do not tell you that your hair is messed up, could this be a sign that they do not like you?
Over the years, there were times when it was very windy out and when I walked into my workplace from the parking lot, my hair was very messed up, such that my hair was pointed in different directions ...
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How to maintain good boundaries when manipulative co-worker and boss have years-long relationship at previous jobs?
I'm a new senior developer. There's a manager and a junior dev. The junior dev and the manager have worked together at another company and have a strong relationship.
This week, the junior dev called ...
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My workmate wants me to teach her art but I would prefer to maintain a work-only boundary [closed]
So I work as a graphic designer and I'm also a very good visual artist. I paint and draw quite well, recently my coworker noticed my talents online and ever since she has become obsessed with the ...
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How should I handle a senior colleague who speaks disparagingly?
I've got a senior colleague, whom I can't get along with too well.
We've had some bad interactions when I just joined the company, because he just throws everything he thinks out in the wild, without ...
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How should I address disruptive office behaviors diplomatically? [duplicate]
I recently started a new job and share an office with a colleague who has some disruptive habits. While he is a friendly and helpful individual, there are two specific behaviors that are affecting my ...
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Trips in a colleague's car (smoker)
One of my colleagues is a heavy smoker. We sometimes go together to customer appointments (approx. 1 hour's drive in one direction).
We don't have company cars. He offers me then a lift in his car. In ...
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Cold-messaged by a colleague's spouse to get mentorship
I've recently received a cold message from a colleague's spouse, writing that they've heard my "name from <my colleague's name> over the meetings", asking for mentorship to help them (...
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How to deal with a client who is constantly distrustful towards me?
I work as a freelance web developer. There is one important client that I'm currently doing a large project for. Most of the time he is easy going and friendly, but there have been many times he ...
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How should I let the custodian know that he needs to stop mopping our floors with dirty water?
I have noticed that the new custodian in our workplace often mops our floors with dirty water. The water in the mop bucket is usually dark and it sometimes smells bad. I have never seen him stop ...
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Would I be jeopardizing a working relationship if I voiced my displeasure with a coworkers actions?
I work in the United States. I have been working with a co-worker, Jane, for 9 months. We do similar work. She has over 30 years of experience on the job. She is an invaluable resource. I can ask her ...
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How can I ask my senior male manager to coffee with me?
I am intern in the niche finance firm where everyone knows each other because it is so small. He is 10 years older than me and my senior but not my direct boss. I will leave the firm soon, in less ...
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Professional relationship and friendship with the same person
I live in a city with very difficult (and expensive) rent situation. I rent an apartment and I have some loans to pay off. To share the costs (and to make some profit), I decided to look for a ...
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Workplace relationships [closed]
My fiancé and I have worked together directly in the company we are with for a while now, and we disclosed our relationship to them in the very beginning. Can they after a year of knowing we were ...
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Is it reasonable to be frustrated about being siloed in a project?
I transitioned to a new company as an software engineer 2. I was put on a single project months ago where the problem statement was given to me, but it was up to me to shape the problem, do the ...
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How to keep good professional relationship with manager whom I like
I have a team lead who is very rude and unprofessional. I joined a new company and was mentally abused a lot before I complained to my manager about him. The team lead has been promoted to my manager ...
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How much should I help the new person in my old job role?
I work for a very large organization.
I left one subset of the organization, such as a division, we'll call A, and went to another such subset (such as division) that we'll call B.
In any event, ...
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How do I stay out of malicious gossip when co-worker keeps trying to get me to agree with her? [duplicate]
Two co-workers of mine talk about a 3rd co-worker behind her back. They feel she gets away with things that other employees do not and management doesn't do anything about it. For example, her ...
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How to politely get out of a carpooling situation as the car owner [closed]
I found myself in a developing carpooling situation as a daily driver.
My colleague approached me the other day and asked if I could drop him off. He doesn't live far away from me and doesn't expect ...
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Manager not treating every team member equally
I am in a team of 7 including our team leader (which has both the responsibility of technical lead and line management) in a company consisting of 700 people total. We are a relatively young team with ...
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Team lead often directs question to coworker with less knowledge than me
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I work in a business intelligence team consisting of 7 people, including our team lead. It has happened quite often that our team lead (let's call him Bob) directs a question to a coworker ...
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Should I meet my manager, in person, if he is on a business trip a 2 hour flight away from my city?
My company head office is in South Africa while I am based in Sweden. My manager sent out an email that next month he will be in France and would love to meet anyone in person for lunch or coffee.
My ...
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Build new company software on my own time? Or is that overstepping? [closed]
I started working at this company about a year ago. I work on a team that maintains their web application.
The web application was built about 20 years ago using Java Spring and is extremely outdated ...
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How to deal with a manager with strong cognitive biases?
For background, I work in a small tech company (~30 people) in the United States, and I have 12 years of experience in my field. I lead (but do not manage) a team of less experienced people in my ...
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How to be independent at workplace while being friendly
At work places we have to stay independent to complete our services properly, right? In my new work place, there are 2 other girls, quite of my same age. So I greet them friendly and try to maintain ...
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Is it ok to openly admit that you brought a friend of yours to the company?
If I were to admit that, some people might think that it is unfair because he didn't really find the job on his own merit. On the other hand, not admitting it might look like if I were hiding ...
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Dating a coworker with indirect relations to a direct report
This is somewhat of a weird situation to explain. I am a senior, C level executive and am dating somebody from another part of the company. There are no overlapping parts in the day to day business of ...
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Am I being set up for failure? Filling the gap
I started working in a FAANG company about 7 months ago as a software engineer II, and my team of 5 (including the manager who is also a tech lead) is onboarding a feature that requires engaging with ...
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Old foe is now my boss [closed]
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1-Is there any way of arguing that gets me out of this new boss that sounds reasonable and professional?
2-How can I keep upper management informed about my dissatisfaction, even if I manage ...
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How do I wean off my main vendor (who wants to be my sole vendor) over time?
I have a startup project, and my (only for now) vendor wants to be my sole vendor. I am concerned about his behaviour if I want to work with other vendors in the near future.
How do I deal with this ...
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Frequent job switches before migration to another country
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I am working as a software support engineer/team leader in a non-IT company doing desktop applications. The domain I am working is geography specific i.e. the jobs are in Europe and some ...
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