Questions tagged [ask-or-guess]
In a 'Ask Culture', you can ask for almost everything, but must take a plain and simple 'no' as an answer. In a 'Guess Culture', you only give rise to a request when you're pretty sure the answer will be 'yes'. Subtlety done, you won't even have to make the request directly, as you'll get an offer.
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When you're ask culture, how can you tell the difference between polite guess culture comments and malicious backhanded comments?
I'm ask-culture, and I suspect (though I'm not 100% sure) a colleague is guess-culture. I, probably like everyone, have various insecurities about my job skills. There are things I feel I'm very ...
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How to quickly tell if someone is an asker or guesser?
I realised that most of my interpersonal conflicts arise when I (an asker) ask a guesser questions that they find uncomfortable answering. To overcome this, I am thinking that when I meet a new person,...
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How can I survive in a 'guess' culture?
Recently I read an article on 'ask' and 'guess' culture1, and it brought me a lot of clarity. It explains the reason behind many of the interpersonal conflicts that I faced during the past 10-20 years ...
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