Questions tagged [boundaries]
This tag should be used when boundaries (either yours or someone else's) play a major role in the situation at hand. This could involve questions about how to respect other people's boundaries, how to handle overstepping someone's boundaries, establishing your own boundaries, or handling someone who has overstepped your boundaries.
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How to make friendship work with mental illness?
I have Borderline Personality Disorder that I am seeking help for, and have a lot of issues that may make me a terrible friend, such as lashing out/and or being inconsistent. (Not excusing this ...
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How to approach my autistic friend regarding his negative behavior?
I have a close friend who is autistic. We have been friends for over 20 years. Over time he has made increasingly disparaging comments about me and I am unsure of how to address this.
My friend was ...
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How do I stop my friends & relatives from postponing their requests for help until the last minute and then disrupting my plans with urgent requests?
The problem outlined in the title is really getting to me. Some of my relatives and friends are overburdened by their everyday duties and barely manage to plan ahead. They often suddenly face an ...
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How to approach a friend who is vague when trying to plan a meet up?
I have a friend and we talk frequently on WhatsApp. We have just got back in touch after a few years of losing touch. I remembered her to be quite unreliable but I have considered that after a few ...
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Putting pressure to get pending money from a client
An old client of mine says A owes me X amount. He is delaying payment for the past 3 weeks. One week he said - "His account is in an inactive state", and next week "He is in debt, he is ...
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How can I enforce boundaries with a clingy younger woman without hurting her
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Six months ago two sisters started to attend an association I am volunteering at. I developed a huge crush on the older sister, so I tried to approach her, but without success. Unexpectedly ...
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How to handle someone who repeatedly returns to previously-discussed points in conversations?
I was recently asked (by a family member) about an personal event I was planning. During the conversation, the person I was talking to kept pressing me for details on every conceivable aspect of the ...
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How do I ask my friend to stop doing inappropriate things to me?
I have a friend, A, in my group that is very annoying (physically). They act the same with other friends in our group, but they are okay with that. I seem to be the only one with an issue. Problem is, ...
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How do I find out if this girl has a crush on me, without asking her directly?
I am working in an IT company as project manager. I have met this girl who is a software engineer in a different team. We have known each other for one year now.
She likes to talk to me. She calls me ...
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How to invite someone over but not for too long
On behalf of a friend, sometimes she wants to invite people over but many members of her extended family don’t know when to leave, even when given big clues (not as harsh as ‘close the door when you ...
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How to better react/respond to a friend who rejects your advice but still keeps asking for your help?
I find that it’s particularly hard for me to help someone when they want my help but I disagree on what’s helpful? Especially when I’m seen as an expert.
Instance: Friend for years messages me,
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Is another person's private object within your own personal boundary?
My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months.
Early one morning, after a conversation we'd had the previous night, she calls me to ask me if I own a very private object. Not wanting to lie, I ...
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How to stop divulging information that I don't want to share?
My cousin asks me things that I don't want to share, yet I share details with her because I don't know a polite way to tell her that I don't want to share.
From time to time, she asks me about my ...
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How to deal with my grandma and aunt's hurtful behavior towards my family? [closed]
I am an unmarried 22 year old girl in college. I have a mother, father and brother who is also doing his masters in college. We live in India and all stay together in a flat. I'm the youngest in my ...
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How to get my younger brother to respect my boundaries
A year ago I finished my education and moved back in with my parents. My brother is 14, 10 years younger than me.
He annoys me quite a bit and I'm having difficulties dealing with him and don't know ...
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