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Discussion | An email we received from a reader:
I feel very confused when I see submissions about a white person having a preference for only another white person when it comes to dating. I’m not sure how or why this is microaggressive.
I saw comments that suggest that white persons should seek out(?) persons of colour in their circle of friends, and that it would expand their dating preferences. But then I think that it would also end up on microaggressions for actively pursuing someone because of their skin colour. I believe then that it gets labeled as “fetishizing” that person…
This seems like a no-win situation. It seems to me like a person, especially a white person, is not supposed to have a preference for skin colour. I don’t agree with this. I think that anyone is allowed to have their preferences when it comes to dating.
Is there something that I’m not seeing here?
Please discuss in the comments!
A question we received:
Can I (a white, non-Muslim person) submit a microaggression relating to the Islamophobia that is present at my predominantly white, Catholic/Protestant school?
The response off the tops of our heads…
This is a great and really thoughtful question. While we are not any “authority” about microaggressions, for our blog and from what we’ve read, it would not be posted as a microaggression. The idea is that microaggressions are extremely frustrating, violating little walls that people face in their everyday lives due to one or multiple identities they have. The original idea for the project was to document this visually so that when for example person of color is explaining to a white person who does not share the “oppressed” identity, they could show this website and see a whole conglomeration of these commonplace, daily slights they have to face. While you clearly are conscious and recognize the Islamophobic microaggression, the project is about providing a voice for people who have to experience it.
That being said, often times our submissions do not include all of the context or clarify the identity of the submitter, so we don’t know - but we’ll usually give it the benefit of the doubt & post it if it resonates with us. lastly, I would love for this to be a wider discussion for the microaggressions community - this is a question we get very often.
What do you think?
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