You're a Fraud and We All Know It: Work, Leadership and Imposter Syndrome
- 1. You’re a Fraud and We All Know It
Work, Leadership, and Imposter Syndrome
Briana Morgan and Amanda Clark
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- 2. If you want to tweet about tonight, hit up
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- 3. Story time.
A gentle intro into why we’re here and what the hell we’re talking about.
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- 8. 1.People feel this way.
2.We’re being told to ignore it or act like
it doesn’t exist.
3.There’s got to be more to this story.
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- 16. 1.the imposter cycle
Project or
Task
Anxiety
Self Doubt
Worry
Over-Preparation Procrastination
Accomplishment
Feeling of Relief
Positive Feedback
Effort Luck
Discount Positive
Feedback
Perceived Fraudulence
Increased Self-Doubt
Depression
Anxiety
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- 17. 2. the need to be special or the very best
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- 20. 5. denial of competence and discounting
praise
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- 24. When we learn about a new subject, we
initially overestimate what we know.
The more we learn, the more we realize
how much we don’t know.
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- 25. This gulf gets larger, not smaller, with
experience.
If you feel like an imposter now, then just you wait.
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- 29. 1.Get up an hour earlier!
2.Visualize your goals!
3.Eat a balanced homemade breakfast!
4.Exercise!
5.Clean your inbox!
6.Do your most dreaded task - first!
7.Meditate!
8.Pack a wholesome lunch and snacks!
9.No wait, there’s more!!! #panmaimposters
- 30. 2. Turn off alarm clock after walking across the room to get to it.
3. Meditate for 20 minutes.
4. Have a pre-workout snack.
5. Workout. Elevate heart rate for at least 30 minutes.
6. Stretch.
7. Identify set of goals for the day.
8. Drink a glass of lemon water.
9. Brew a cup of fair-trade, locally roasted coffee using preferred method (pourover, Aeropress, French press).
10. Have a balanced breakfast with complex carbohydrates, protein, and some fat preferably high in Omega-3s and with at least 5 grams of fiber.
11. Avoid dairy products. #panmaimposters
- 31. People who have imposter syndrome are
less likely to raise their hands.
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- 39. It’s not all about what you know;
it’s about how you think.
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Editor's Notes
- -Google Doc
-FB
-Dog photo
-Narcissism
-NEXT
- Hands up:
Sound familiar
Never had this happen
Didn’t raise your hand because you wanted to have the right answer since other people can see you
- Focus
Talk technique
naked
practice
worst case
hiccup
Brene
Original
It starts - NEXT
- Regular story
Hero
Best Storyteller
Trophy
Here’s what happened.
This is creative work
NEXT
- people have this feeling. In a big way. In our workplaces and communities and social circles.
General school of thought and advice for people that have this feeling is that we should be acting our way through it, “faking it til we make it,” giving ourselves false confidence
And there’s got to be more to this story.
- Fail to internalize
Nagging
underestimated
overesteemed
fraud
Pauline Rose Clance & Suzanne Imes - 1978 - high-achieving women
- After winning an Academy Award:
"I thought it was a fluke. [It was] the same way when I walked on the campus at Yale. I thought everybody would find out, and they'd take the Oscar back. They'd come to my house, knocking on the door, 'Excuse me, we meant to give that to someone else. That was going to Meryl Streep.'"
- “I don’t know how to act anyway, so why am I doing this?”
- Librarians
Clance book
- traditionally women, in research, rooted in gender - now men feel an even greater sense of imposter over having the feelings of imposter syndrome, because gendered expectations tell them they should not
- 2 out of 6 = imposter!
- example→ feeling like no matter which path you took (over prep, procrastination or a mix of both), you didn’t deserve the successful outcome because you’re talented or good at what you’re doing. it was luck! or “Of course I’ve succeeded, I’ve put an excessive amount of effort and time in this project, maybe double than someone else would have needed”
http://bsris.swu.ac.th/journal/i6/6-6_Jaruwan_73-92.pdf
- example→ others’ perception of you + big fish in a little pond
- Example - “successful leaders do X”
(setting high or almost impossible standards and expect to do everything flawlessly in every aspect of your life)
- Fail fast! Fail big!
Falling on your face still sucks. Doing it in front of people sucks more.
But then also….fearing success because success is pressure to succeed again and failing after success becomes scarier
- example-->You shouldn’t have
- example-->esp with first-gen college students
- NOPE
Jessica Hagy - This is Indexed
- Dunning-Kruger effect
People at all skill levels are equally poor at estimating their performance.
http://psycnet.apa.org/?&fa=main.doiLanding&doi=10.1037/0022-3514.90.1.60
- #3
Endless lists
Full-stack
- What to do - not how to be
https://medium.com/@sarakloek/95-things-i-should-do-every-day-according-to-the-internet-bfac69fd9c9a#.nk7felkpe
- not volunteering for tasks outside of job description (2014)
women - overwork to compensate (2005 study of college students)
men - avoid situations where lack of knowledge could be exposed
Vergauwe, et al - Journal of Business and Psychology - Fear of Being Exposed: The Trait-Relatedness of the Impostor Phenomenon and its Relevance in the Work Context
Not volunteering
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/270879652_Fear_of_Being_Exposed_The_Trait-Relatedness_of_the_Impostor_Phenomenon_and_its_Relevance_in_the_Work_Context
- Me? Or Toxic?
- What does this mean for work and leadership?
- In the door
Temporary
Get you to the top - not keep you there
- Your life & work
- In leaders
- Of yourself
What am I willing to give up - oil pulling
Of others
No devil’s advocate
Talk to mentors, people who have been where you, who might have felt what you feel at points in their own career
- Speak clearly
Don’t assume knowledge
Don’t assume people are stupid
- What’s the end game
Dunning-Kruger
make a realistic assessment of your abilities, write down what you’re really good at and what things you need to work on
- Appreciate how they mesh with what you know
This makes you unique
- recognizing what you know
helping others (younger, less experienced, students) and sharing your expertise helps solidify your strengths and give back
- Learn to appreciate when you do a task ‘well enough’
Acknowledge these “good” jobs, don’t see them as failures because they weren’t up to super-standards
- WE ARE ALL INSECURE
Treat others well. Build each other up.
- Don’t sacrifice who you are