Unveiling the impostor

Editor's Notes

1. - french - title - AUDDAS - date - twitter - about sudent post doc terms - paper for what people think Thanks for the invitation and for the organization Who’s a prof here ? “post docs” Phds? Masters? Others ? Good place for freedom of speech, so please use it !
2. - french - title - AUDDAS - date - twitter - about sudent post doc terms - paper for what people think Thanks for the invitation and for the organization Who’s a prof here ? “post docs” Phds? Masters? Others ? Good place for freedom of speech, so please use it !
3. The talk I wish I had before. If you think I am saying sth wrong, correct me. --------------------------------- harmfull, please tell me.
4. Mastery: state-of-the-art instruments, incredible simulations, create the best tools (eg at data Tuesday Brazil about astro labs) Maîtrise/domination techniques de pointe Autonomy: time and project Purpose: science, discoveries etc Intellectual challenges
5. Seem to get judged at every stage: every paper, every proposal, every job application…. impacts sense of self (we invest so much of ourselves in our work) Ask who else experiences stress and other stuffs here The more you know, the more you feel you don’t know. Personal though: enjoy the fact that Brazil offers opportunities to not be stressed too much, and enjoy the science you are doing and not just think about doing science that will get you a job. That’s very personal.
6. Social isolation by working all the time etc. Mental health difficulties : studies show they are usually frequent in academia Stress that mental health is not terrifying word. It is just something to take care of. After all, you take care of your physical health, no? Happy vs Unappy
7. If you feel pain in your arm every morning when you wake up since a week, you go see a doctor. If you feel anxious, sad, depressed every morning when you wake up since a week, you go see a doctor. + In academia people don’t talk about it, as it is seen as a weakness. Also, it is a continuum.
8. Your friends, your colleagues, your spouse, and in some years, somebody you’ll have to manage.
9. 1/ Lack of conf makes us anxious, worried, stressed… You put the bar always higher (better faster stronger). It is difficult and it leads to the feeling of failure. 2/ Not applying for a post doc in a brilliant institution thinking “I am not good enough” + women Not asking a question “I don’t know enough to ask a question” Not sharing an interesting comment “my comment is not interesting enough” Not going to a conference (you have not made enough progress yet) Not publishing a paper (your work is not good enough) Nervousness about talking to others in their field, especially if those others are perceived as highly skilled/experienced You may choose a lower level job because you think it will be easier for you to manage. You take constructive criticism as condemnation: - When things go wrong, I automaticallky blame myself - When I make amistake, I have a really hard time forgiving myself - I often walk away from conversation obsessing over what I should have said, or failed ro say. - I remember every dumb thing I ever did or said. I take constructive criticism personnaly, seeing it as a proof of my ineptness. 3/ Procrastination (can also take the form of somebody who is always reading litterature, and/or missing its real work. esp staying in the comfort zone, the zone of no danger, no risk.) 4/ success in any career often requires stepping outside your comfort zone, so it's important not to let your fear of failure get in the way. Working too hard (over preparing) is good sometimes but bad for life balance...
10. Felling that you don’t belong here. Somebody will realize it and kick you out. I don’t like the word syndrome: too clinic, looks like we are all sick. Not a syndrome + "I didn't want this to be one more way of pathologizing women," says Clance = ‘impostor phenomenon'
11. Not a syndrome + "I didn't want this to be one more way of pathologizing women," says Clance = ‘impostor phenomenon' Studying high achieving women: pattern of feeling like a fraud, an impostor Stress women and minorities, + also men
12. Internal bar absurdly high, we expect ourself to hit it 24/7. Also the definition of failure is distorted: failure = not being perfect all the time, not knowing something, asking for help, having to struggle Define the worry of being caught.
13. Jodie Foster 2 oscars
14. Meryl Streep 3 oscars
15. Maya Angelou Nobel price, litterature
16. Maya Angelou Nobel price, litterature
17. Give examples Who recognizes the pattern of his thoughts ?
18. Give examples
19. You were lucky, but YOU took advantage of it. You got your PhD, degree
20. Talk about M’s story.
21. Some good, some bad. Take what you like!
22. Put a word on it, identify it, understand it First step is understanding that this feeling is there, and that it won’t go away overnight. That’s the work I am trying to do here!
23. approprier realisations Make list of your achievements, success, awards. Keep track of your accomplishments (linkedin, CV…) State the facts. Ask other people what you are good at. Find a mentor that can give you feedback on your work. Separate feelings from reality. Remind yourself that feeling like an imposter is different from being an imposter. Keep a written record of your accomplishments. Feel a sense of ownership for them. remind them to you. Discuss it with friends. - Learn to own your success. -1 Write down your different success, awards, things that you succeeded in doing. Only the facts. -2 Aknoledge the fact that luck, charm etc plays a role. They were here, but you took advantage of it. - ask other people what you are good at? find a mentor, a trusting friend, which can guide you, sometimes (constructively) criticize, or recognize your successes. = feedback -Keep track of your accomplishments (linkedin, CV…) Ask people to recommend you on linkedin. Ask advice for things to put on your CV from people that know you well. Separate feelings from reality. Remind yourself that feeling like an imposter is different from being an imposter. Keep a written record of your accomplishments. Feel a sense of ownership for them.
24. When praised, really listen to it and internalize it. Say “thank you”, not “let me explain why I don’t deserve this compliment” “Only”, “Just” are diminishing! And you end up beleiving what you are saying. “I am not a REAL xxxx + “students” “post docs” should have a better name. In portuguese?
25. teach what you know (and what you don’t know~) : it forces you to realize that you know things. + outreach Don’t be crushed by your mistakes Who do you blame when you fail? Story of the sport teams. Make a list of the situations in which “imposter” feelings are likely to strike. When you can warn yourself to expect these feelings, they’re easier to recognize and deal with. Be supportive : even if you don’t have Imp Feelings Try to break frightening tasks into several parts. If possible, start with the easiest part.
26. We are also influenced by our non-verbals
27. Brazil = different culture, more friendly Sometimes, it is not you who is incompetent, but your manager or your institute who sucks.
28. What you feel is normal but don’t stay passive. LEARN: won’t go away just walking out this door. NOW: don’t think it will be better after the phd, the post doc, the professorship + examples Also : Who works better? The stressed PhD students or the one who have fun? Win-Win situation