Confidence building report

11/1/2019
GROUP MEMBER NAME:
AMNA NAEEM
MUNEEBA SOHAIL
ROMEESA KHALID
SABEELA ALI
WAJIHA ISMAIL
CONFIDENCE BUILDING - HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR
PERSONALITY
 “Once We Believe In Ourselves,We Can Risk Curiosity, Wonder,
Spontaneous Delight, Or Any Experience That Reveals The
Human Spirit.”
SUBMITTED TO:
MISS UZMA

Jinnah University for Women Departmentof Commerce
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Contents
SELF-CONFIDENCE:....................................................................................................................... 2
HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE?.......................................................................................................2
VISUALIZE YOURSELF:................................................................................................................ 2
TAKE RISKS ONCE YOU'VE GAINED ENOUGH SELF CONFIDENCE:.................................................. 2
QUESTION YOUR INNER CRITIC:.................................................................................................2
SET YOURSELF UP TO WIN:........................................................................................................3
HELP SOMEONE ELSE: ............................................................................................................... 3
CREATE PERSONAL BOUNDARIES:.............................................................................................. 4
CARE FOR YOURSELF:................................................................................................................ 4
TAKE THE 100 DAYS OF REJECTION CHALLENGE:.........................................................................4
STOP COMPARING STAY FOUCED ON YOU:................................................................................. 5
BE FEARLESS :........................................................................................................................... 5
STAND UP FOR YOUR SELF:........................................................................................................6
ACT POSITIVE:........................................................................................................................... 6
GET PREPARED: ........................................................................................................................ 6
BE GRATEFUL:........................................................................................................................... 7
DRESS UP WELL: ....................................................................................................................... 7
DREAMS:..................................................................................................................................8
EXPECT THE BEST:................................................................................................................... 10
SMILE:.................................................................................................................................... 12
FAITH:.................................................................................................................................... 13
FIND OUT HOW CONFIDENT YOU APPEAR TO OTHERS.................................................................. 14

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SELF-CONFIDENCE:
Self-confidence is trusting your own abilities, capacities, and judgment. Self-
confident people know they can rise-up to the task at hand.
Nobody is born with limitless self-confidence. If someone seems to have
incredible self-confidence, it’s because he or she has worked on building it for
years. Self-confidence is something that you learn to build up because the
challenging world of business, and life in general, can deflate it.
We see confidence in others based on how they talk and act. Think of the
confident people you know, you can’tdrillinside their brains to know whatthey
think of themselves, but you think they’re confident anyway because of how
they portray themselves to the world.
HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE?
VISUALIZE YOURSELF:
Visualization is the technique of seeing an image of yourself that you are proud
of, in your own mind. When we struggle with low self-confidence, we have a
poor perception of ourselves that is often inaccurate. Practice visualizing a
fantastic version of yourself, achieving your goals.
“What the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve.” -- Napoleon Hill
TAKE RISKS ONCE YOU'VE GAINED ENOUGH SELF CONFIDENCE:
Your self-confidencewill soar once you've got the foundational skills down pat.
But don’t stop there; stretch yourself a little by taking on practical challenges
that exercise your newfound self-confidence.
QUESTION YOUR INNER CRITIC:
Someof the harshestcommentsthat weget comefrom ourselves,viathe "voice
of the inner critic." If you strugglewith low self-confidence, there is a possibility
that your inner critic has become overactive and inaccurate.

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“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and ithasn’tworked. Try approving
of yourself and see what happens.” -- Louise L. Hay
Find opportunities to congratulate, compliment and reward yourself, even for
the smallestsuccesses.
As MarkTwainsaid, “[A] mancannotbe comfortablewithouthisownapproval.”
SET YOURSELF UP TO WIN:
Too many people are discouraged about their abilities because they set
themselves goals that are too difficult to achieve. Startby setting yourself small
goals that you can win easily.
Once you have built a stream of successes that make you feel good about
yourself, you can then move on to harder goals. Make surethat you also keep a
list of all your achievements, both large and small, to remind yourself of the
times that you have done well.
Instead of focusing only on “to-do" lists, I like to spend time reflecting on “did-
it" lists. Reflecting on the major milestones, projects and goals you’veachieved
is a great way to reinforce confidence in your skills.
“To establish true self-confidence, we must concentrate on our successes and
forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.” -- Denis Waitley
HELP SOMEONE ELSE:
Help someone else often enables us to forget about ourselves and to feel
grateful for what we have. It also feels good when you are able to make a
difference for someone else.
Instead of focusing on your own weaknesses, volunteer to mentor, assist or
teach another, and you'll see your self-confidence grow automatically in the
process.

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CREATE PERSONAL BOUNDARIES:
Learn to say no. Teach others to respect your personalboundaries. If necessary,
takeclasseson howto bemoreassertiveand learn to askforwhatyouwant. The
more control and say that you have over your own life, the greater will be your
self-confidence.
“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept
no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.”-- Harvey Fierstein
CARE FOR YOURSELF:
Self-confidence depends on a combination of good physical health, emotional
health and social health. It is hard to feel good about yourself if you hate your
physique or constantly have low energy.
Make time to cultivate greatexercise, eating and sleep habits. In addition, dress
the way you want to feel. You have heard the saying that “clothes make the
man.” Build your self-confidence by making the effort to look after your own
needs.
“Self-care is never a selfish act -- it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I
have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.” -- Parker Palmer
TAKE THE 100 DAYS OF REJECTION CHALLENGE:
Jia Jiang has become famous for recording his experience of “busting fear” by
purposefully making crazy requests of people in order to be rejected over 100
days. His purposewas to desensitizehimself to rejection, after he became more
upset than he expected over rejection from a potential investor. Busting fear
isn’t easy to do, but if you want to have fun while building up your self-
confidence, this is a powerful way to do it.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -- Eleanor Roosevelt

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STOP COMPARING STAYFOUCED ON YOU:
If you took the strengths of others, and compared them to your weaknesses,
how do you think you’d size up? And do you think this would make you feel
good?
The funnything is, this is whatmostof usdo at one time or another — and some
of us do pretty often.
It’s a sure-firerecipe for a drop in self-confidenceand for unhappiness. It’s also
not that useful.
Let’s say I take a look at someone who creates amazing artwork and really top-
notch podcasts on their website … and I look at my art and video skills, and
realize that I don’t come close to measuring up. In fact, I look pretty pitiful (I’m
a lousy drawer and don’t know anything about video).
But wait a minute: it’s not a fair comparison. Just because I don’t measure up
doesn’t mean I should get out of the blogging business, or that I should get
depressed or jealous or resentful. Instead, if I looked at my strengths — writing
useful and honest posts — I can see that I have a lot to offer, a lot to be happy
about.
And that’s soimportant — being able to look at yourownstrengthsand seeyour
true value. It’s actually one of the keys to success, becausewithout this ability,
you will be unmotivated, and won’t believe in yourself.
BE FEARLESS :
Failing isn't your enemy, it's fearing failure that truly cripples you. If you set big
goals and have big dreams, you're going to feel overwhelmed, and you're
inevitably going to feel like you can't do it. In those moments you have to look
inside yourself and gather every ounceof courageyou haveand justkeep going.
Every single wildly successfulperson has been afraid, and they've kept working
and taking risks anyway, because what they are trying to accomplish is more
important and urgent than their fear they will fail. Think about how much you
want to achieve your goal, then put your fear to the side, and keep going, one
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“If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is too. Do not
overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than
you think.” -- T. Harv Eker
STAND UP FOR YOUR SELF:
The main reason why we have lack of confidence because we care a lot about
what other people are going to think about us because of this reason we don’t
do what we want to do or what we love to do. There are going to be so many
people who will tell you that you can’t accomplish your goal. People will try to
tell you your goalis too big, or that you arenot ready, or that you can’tdo it etc.
and you absolutely can’t listen to them because worrying aboutthe opinions of
other people will lower your self-confidence. You must be resolute. While they
tell you the odds are against you, etc., just remember most people are wrong
aboutmostthings.Peoplechangethe worldeveryday, despiteeveryonearound
them telling them it can't be done. If you think you can do it, you can it. Don't
listen to them, just believe in yourself.
ACT POSITIVE:
You can improve your personality or build confidence by acting positive. More
than justthinking positive, you have to put it into action. Action, actually, is the
key to developing self-confidence. It’s one thing to learn to think positive, but
when you start acting on it, you change yourself, one action at a time. You are
what you do, and so if you change what you do, you change what you are. Act
in a positive way, take action instead of telling yourself you can’t, be positive.
Talk to people in a positive way, put energy into your actions. You’ll soon start
to notice a difference in yourself.
GET PREPARED:
It’shardto be confidentin yourselfif youdon’tthink you’lldo well at something.
Beat that feeling by preparing yourself as much as possible. Think about taking
an exam: if you haven’t studied, you won’t have much confidence in your
abilities to do well on the exam. But if you studied well, you’re prepared, and
you’ll be much more confident. Now think of life as your exam, and prepare
yourself. Learn everything there is to know about your field, job, presentation

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whatever is next on your "to conquer" list. If you are prepared, and have the
knowledge to back it up, your self-confidence will soar.
BE GRATEFUL:
If you wantto be happy and build a strong inner confidence you need to be able
to see the good in yourself and make it last. It helps you to remove negative
thoughts from your mind. Youneed to be thankful for what you have instead
what you don’t have to turn your negativity into positivity.
Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire,
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
Be thankfulwhen you don’tknow something
because it gives you the opportunity to learn.
Be thankfulfor the difficult times.
During those times you grow.
Be thankfulfor your limitations
because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankfulfor each new challenge
because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankfulfor your mistakes
they will teach you valuable lessons.
Be thankfulwhen you’retired and weary
because it means you’vemade a difference.
Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive. Find a way to be thankfulfor your
troubles and they can become your blessings.
DRESS UP WELL:
Focus on how you should dress up for office, party or any other occasion. Wear
accordingto the occasions.Goodlooks no doubtwill add to yourpersonalitybut
what matters the most is how you are dressed up. Don’t wear jewellery or dark

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makeup when you are going for job interview because it gives bad impression.
Wear nice, simple, and comfortable clothes because it gives you confidence. It
plays a major role in personality development.
DREAMS:
Before you ever hope to achieve anything you need to create a dream, a vision
of whatexactly you want. Your dream needs to be clear in your mind as it is this
image thatwill driveyouto succeedin achieving it. Ifyou areunclear aboutwhat
you want, as you may well be, you need to find your passion and set yourself
some goals. Focus on things you are passionate about and you will soon figure
out what your dreams are and what it is you want to do in life. You can then
startto build your vision.While doing so, believe that you will succeed,and your
belief will help create the fact.
Forgetwhathaspassed.Yourdream does notdepend on whathappened before
but what you do fromnow on. Your history, your background is not something
which decides if you can succeed. For example, somepeople see themselves as
having a disadvantage and even persuade themselves that success is more
difficult for them because of their race, their age or whatever else they believe
limits them. The truth is it is not your age or anything else that limits you but
what you think. An example of this is Colonel Sanders of KFC fame. You know
the old guywhoinvented the recipeforKFC chickenand mademillions. Hedidn’t
see his age as a problem and he completely changed what he was doing and
made a fortune. He actually started selling chicken when he was 40. He had
started working 22 years before that and got fired a couple of times. He had a
shortand limited career in thearmy and wasnota Colonel. This wasan honorary
title given to him by the State of Kentucky due to his accomplishments in
business.
Work doing something you love. If you do this it won’tseem like work at all. Try
the opposite, (many people do just that, they hate their job), and see how
difficult it is to make a success of it.
Everyone across the globe irrespective of their gender, region, nationality, and
socialand financial status,they dream for a better personaland professionallife
to achieve social status and financial stability. You are also one of them who

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have dreams, who want success in your life whether it’s on a personal or
professional level. You dream, you want to achieve your goals and you want
whatever you wantto havein your life but still, you arestruggling with it and do
not understand what, how and why you are not reaching your goals to make
your dream come true.
The power and fuel behind excellence, success, and growth on personal and
professional level is dreaming big, knowing what exact you are dreaming,
believing in self and being persistentin yourapproachto achieve it. You do have
a dream and goals somehow you believe in yourself but you fail to achieve for
whatyouwere/aredreamingbecausethey dream mostof ushavearesometime
unrealistic, unachievable, and you don’t not believe in self that you will be able
to achieve your dreams which makes you doubt yourself and your dreams, in
fact your abilities.
Self-belief means firm confidence and trust in your own strengths, skills,
capabilities, thoughts,emotions, and knowledgeand confidencethat youcan do
and achieve whatever you are dreaming about.
While speaking to the young girls at Girls Leadership Conference and to the
participants of the Peshawar Youth Conference, I asked “what is your dream in
life and do you think you will be able to achieve your dreams or goals? The
responsefrom each group was interesting where majority of them responded
that they have not yet set the objective, some said I dream to have happy life,
to get a good job and few responding that its luck so we will work hard and
whatever we get we will be happy with it. The one who responded they have
dreams, their goals were unclear and unstructured, they said we don’t know
how we will achieve it and that they doubt if they can do so.
The foundation and hidden force to achieve your defined dream and goals is a
firm belief in your skills and abilities. If you define your dream and your
objectives, you can make your dream come true and can achieve your goals if
you believe in yourself and many of us get fail because we do not have a firm
self-belief. And we are not persistent in our efforts because we doubt our self
after some time and quite. Dreams come true only if you have a clear and
realistic dream based upon your interest and skill, you believe in yourself and
work delicately to achieve it.

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“Believe you can and you’re halfway there” – Theodore Roosevelt
EXPECT THE BEST:
An expectation is usually described simply as a belief that something is going to
happen, whether negative or positive.
Some people are afraid of negative expectations becausethey think that having
such thoughts will causebad things to happen. Itwould seem that such people
believe that thoughts are tremendously powerful. However, the same people
often believe that positive thoughts don't have much if any power at all.
Somepeople are afraidof positiveexpectations becausethey areafraid of being
disappointed when thepositiveexpectations don'tworkout. Ifyou dig deep you
will find that such peopleoften believe that positiveexpectations actually cause
bad things to happen.
Now, it's a fact that for many people positive expectations do not work out the
way they want them to. And that makes them feel disappointed, which means
feeling bad. And they become afraid of feeling bad. so they try not to have any
positive expectations.
But expectations don't cause bad feelings, and things not working out the way
you want them to doesn't cause bad feelings. Bad feelings like disappointment
come from not liking the way things turned out and staying mad about it. And
that's a choice.
However, this is not a talk about how to not feel disappointed. It is about how
to use positive expectations effectively. A positive expectation is a desire for
something good to happen. To make things simple I am going to talk about the
10% way, the 50% way, and the 100% way to do this.
The 10% way is to be very specific about what you want, use every means you
can think of to maintain your focus on what you want, do whatever you can to
keep your motivation high, and consider any deviation from your intention to
be a failure. If you do this, about 10%--or maybe more--of what you want will
probably come about. That's pretty good, actually, but a lot of people mess this

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up by shifting their attention to the failureinstead of refining or re-defining their
focus.
The 50% way is to do the samething with focus and motivation, but to be not as
specific about what you want. This can either mean being more general, like
wanting a good car instead of wanting a specific model and style, or being more
adaptable about what you want, like wanting a three bedroomhouse in Malibu
and accepting one in San Diego, or being more adaptable about when you want
it, like being willing to wait a year or so till what you want becomes available.
Another important part of this way is to not be afraid of not getting what you
want. When this seems to be the case, you just change your plans. If you do all
this about 50%--or maybe more--of what you want will probably come about.
The 100% way requires a shift in perspective. For instance, instead of focusing
on what you want, you focus on the general expectation that good things are
bound to happen, without defining what those good things have to be.
This doesn'tstop you fromthinking about and planning for specific good things,
but your focus is on expecting good no matter what. And instead of building a
high degree of motivational desireenergy,you build a high degree of enjoyment
energy.
"Enjoyment energy" needs some explaining, because most people have never
heard of or considered it. Enjoymentenergy comes from the degree of pleasure
you experience fromseeing, hearing, doing, feeling and imagining whatyou like.
The level of excitement is a measure of the level of energy that feeds your
expectation of moregood. A decent metaphor would bethat of turning yourself
into a powerful magnet for good.
Along with the focus and energy aspects of this way, you must go beyond
adaptability into recognizingthe good,seeking the good, and even finding a way
to create the good out of everything that happens. In this way, therefore, bad
things never happen. Things may happen that you don't like, but when they do
you usethem asan opportunityto increasethe good,in yourselfor in the world.

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SMILE:
Did you know it takes twelve muscles to smile and 113 muscles to frown?
When you smile at another person, a warm, genuine smile, you tell that other
person that he or she is attractive, pleasant, likeable, safe and secure in your
estimation. A single smile is so powerful that it can often transform a person
with low self-esteem, jolting them from negativity to a person with a positive
attitude.
Smiles areso powerfulthat many long-term marriagesand healthy relationships
have begun with a single smile shared across a room. You’ve heard people say
that, “When our eyes met, we both knew that we were meant for each other.”
Each morning, when you come to work, “do the rounds.” Go to each person on
your team and smile at them. Ask them how they are. Take a few moments to
listen patiently and smile while they tell you what they are doing and how they
arefeeling. As you go frompersonto person,like a lamp lighter going from lamp
to lamp, they will light up and smile themselves, feeling happy about being at
work. When you go around and smile at people, it is very much like stepping on
the accelerator of their potential and igniting positive thinking and positive
attitude wherever you go. They startto perform at a higher level because their
self-esteem has risen.
Every time you smile, you not only make other people feel better about
themselves, but you raise your self-esteem, increase your level of positive
attitude and feel better about yourself as well. You will start to build healthy
relationshipsall around you.All it takes is the deliberate decision by youto smile
at the people around you, and to express to them that you are genuinely happy
to see them. The opposite of smiling is being negative or passive. It is walking
around the office with a glum or a negative look on your face. Since everyone
takes everythingpersonally,if youare negativefor anyreason,each of yourstaff
members wonders if it is something that they have done personally that has
made you happy. They become preoccupied with your mood. They slow down
their work and their creativity comes to a halt. If you arenegative for any period
of time, they start to talk about it and worry about their jobs. Even if you are
negative because you have an abscessed tooth that is causing you pain and

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discomfort, because other people do not know this, they will assumethat they
have done something wrong that has displeased you.
FAITH:
Most people start off with little or low self-confidence, but as a result of their
own efforts, they become bold and brave and outgoing. And we’ve discovered
that if you do the same things that other self-confident men and women do,
you, too, will experience the same feelings and get the same results.
The key is to be true to yourself, to be trueto the very bestthat is in you, and to
live your life consistentwith your highestvalues and aspirations. This is the only
way to truly learn how to believe in yourself.
Take sometime to think about who you areand whatyou believe in and whatis
important to you.
If you want to change your life by becoming an author, believe that you can do
it. The hardest step in that journey is finding the confidence to learn how to
write a book. Once you get a hold of a proven system to plan, produce, and
publish your work, the larger goal becomes easier to attain.
By believing in yourself, you will find the courage to take immediate action on
your goals. And this, as you may know, is the key to success!
I encourageyou to never compromiseyour integrity by trying to beor say or feel
something that is not true for you.
And more importantly never compromise your potential to grow due to self-
limiting doubts. Instead, embrace your confidence and believe in yourself
because you really can do anything you put your mind to. Repeat affirmations
such as “I believe in myself” every day.
Your thoughts become words and your words become your actions. If you
continue to tell yourself that you believe in yourself, eventually you really will
believe in yourself. It’s that simple.
Have the courage to accept yourself as you really are—not as you might be, or
as someone else thinks you should be—and know that, taking everything into

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consideration, you are a pretty good person. After all, we all have our own
talents, skills, and abilities that make us extraordinary. No one, including
yourself, has any idea of your capabilities or of what you might ultimately do or
become. Perhaps the hardestthing to do in life is to accept how extraordinary
you really can be, believe in yourself, and then to incorporate this awareness
into your attitude and personality.
FIND OUT HOW CONFIDENT YOU APPEAR TO OTHERS:
Here are three ways you can find out whether others view you as being self-
confident.
Ask "What are three adjectives you would use to describe me?" Make it clear
you’re not fishing for a compliment. Are these adjectives consistent with how
you see yourself? Is confident or a similar adjective one of those words?
Go through previous recommendations and performance reviews you’ve
received. Find comments about how you relate to others, if you speak up in
meetings, or if you’ve ever shown initiative in leading a new project or
presentation, as all these are signs of self-confidence at work.
Compare your actions in the table below, which are you more likely to exhibit?
CONFIDENT BEHAVIOR LOW SELF-CONFIDENCE
Doing what you feel is right even if
others criticize you
Acting based on what you think will
win your peers and manager’s
approval
The ability to take calculated risks Staying in your comfort zone for fear
of failure and rejection
Knowing how to accept compliments
graciously
Downplaying or ignoring
compliments
Owning up to your mistakes Passing blame, or covering it up until
you can fix them

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