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Bridging  International Conflict.  Did you know we began our recent relationship with China over a game of ping pong?  How individual realtionships can make a difference.
A disagreement between two or more people over values, needs, beliefs, perceptions, or expectations. This can end in strained relationships and sometimes violence unless there are appropriate means to resolve and contain conflict.
Because we are all different, differences in points of view are inevitable.  It has the potential to increase understanding, stimulate positive change, and facilitate human relations, but it can also lead to relational stalemates WATCH http://vodpod.com/watch/1707387-the-office-conflict-resolution
 
 
 
Why we need to develop these skills to stay healthy ! “ Assertive behavior is that is socially effective” (Gambrill in O’Donahue & Krasner, 1995) The relationship between assertiveness and well-being has been recognized in psychology since at least 1958 (Wolpe): Less physical health problems in assertive individuals (Williams and Stout, 1985 as cited in Gambrill, 1995) Assertiveness associated with better mental health (Wong, Yah, Lo, & Hung, 2003) and less depression (Rolon, 1999) Assertive patients tend to have better access to health services Likewise, lack of assertiveness has been found to result in anxiety, disappointment, anger, social isolation and physical symptoms.
Patrick Passive  might say, “If it’s not too much trouble, do you think you could put your socks in the wash?” Alternately, he might say nothing, just to avoid the conflict. His tone of voice might be soft and questioning. Amelia Aggressive  might say, “Put your #$* socks in the #$* wash. You are such a slob. The house looks like a pigsty, because of you.” Her tone of voice might be loud and grating, and her posture might be intimidating (fists, eyes glaring). Passive/Aggressive Susan  might say, “I don’t mind picking up your socks and putting them in the wash for you,” but then “accidentally” mix the white socks with a red shirt. Her initial tone might be soft and overly nice. Arthur Assertive  might say, “I feel very frustrated when I come home and your socks are on the floor. I would really like it if you would pick up your socks and put them in the wash. The house would look a lot better.” His voice would likely be firm, moderately loud, and his posture would be relaxed, but straight.
Although the assertive style is the preferred style, it may not always be appropriate. There may be situations when one of the other styles is more appropriate. For example, if the intruder is a three hundred-pound bully, let’s go for the passive style!
It is an everyday occurrence. Life is an endless series of interactions that require negotiation.  You are confronted daily with countless situations in which you are called upon to negotiate, to reach an agreement, or to settle a difference of opinion  (e.g., negotiating bedtime with children or establishing a realistic workload with supervisor or subordinate).
A key attitude for anyone negotiating a conflict is to “ walk a mile in my shoes”.  Attempt to view the conflict through the other parties’ eyes.  This will help a great deal in getting past perceptions that block resolution.
Conflict is neither good nor bad.  Conflict is inevitable. Conflict does not have to result in winners and losers.  In conflict both parties tend to believe that their opinion is fact.  Too often both parties see themselves as innocent victims who represent the side of truth and fairness.  Too often both parties perceive all destructive acts carried out by others completely blind to identical acts carried out by self or those on ‘my’ side.
Communication is the key to effective negotiation. What you say is often less important than how you say it. Tone Body language
Understanding and recognition do not mean compromise and concession! Your own emotions and subconscious brain can hinder your ability to negotiate effectively.
 
 
 
It de-emphasizes personalities in favor of emphasizing the issues. In other words, it separates the person from the problem.
The collaborative, or win-win, approach to negotiation is usually the most effective and most rewarding for both parties.  However, there will be certain situations you will confront where the concept of compromise, or give-get, fits better.
1.  Stop . Cool off. 2. Talk and  listen  to each other. 3 . Find  out what you both need. 4.  Brainstorm  solutions. 5.  Choose  the idea you both like. 6. Make a  plan . Go for it.
  Attempting to control the final outcome of the decisions and actions of the party you  are negotiating with.  To succeed in negotiation, focus on the areas that you can control - your actions, decisions and emotions. Manage your anger – do not gunnysack!!!!
“ Win-lose” approach  In a zero sum game, the person who makes the first offer is at a disadvantage  sets the outer limits of price, other terms Improve zero-sum negotiation skills by: Understanding your objectives Understanding the other side’s objectives www.ebaumsworld.com/video/watch/80747676/

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Chapter 8: Conflict Management Skills

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  • 3. Bridging International Conflict. Did you know we began our recent relationship with China over a game of ping pong? How individual realtionships can make a difference.
  • 4. A disagreement between two or more people over values, needs, beliefs, perceptions, or expectations. This can end in strained relationships and sometimes violence unless there are appropriate means to resolve and contain conflict.
  • 5. Because we are all different, differences in points of view are inevitable. It has the potential to increase understanding, stimulate positive change, and facilitate human relations, but it can also lead to relational stalemates WATCH http://vodpod.com/watch/1707387-the-office-conflict-resolution
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  • 9. Why we need to develop these skills to stay healthy ! “ Assertive behavior is that is socially effective” (Gambrill in O’Donahue & Krasner, 1995) The relationship between assertiveness and well-being has been recognized in psychology since at least 1958 (Wolpe): Less physical health problems in assertive individuals (Williams and Stout, 1985 as cited in Gambrill, 1995) Assertiveness associated with better mental health (Wong, Yah, Lo, & Hung, 2003) and less depression (Rolon, 1999) Assertive patients tend to have better access to health services Likewise, lack of assertiveness has been found to result in anxiety, disappointment, anger, social isolation and physical symptoms.
  • 10. Patrick Passive  might say, “If it’s not too much trouble, do you think you could put your socks in the wash?” Alternately, he might say nothing, just to avoid the conflict. His tone of voice might be soft and questioning. Amelia Aggressive  might say, “Put your #$* socks in the #$* wash. You are such a slob. The house looks like a pigsty, because of you.” Her tone of voice might be loud and grating, and her posture might be intimidating (fists, eyes glaring). Passive/Aggressive Susan  might say, “I don’t mind picking up your socks and putting them in the wash for you,” but then “accidentally” mix the white socks with a red shirt. Her initial tone might be soft and overly nice. Arthur Assertive  might say, “I feel very frustrated when I come home and your socks are on the floor. I would really like it if you would pick up your socks and put them in the wash. The house would look a lot better.” His voice would likely be firm, moderately loud, and his posture would be relaxed, but straight.
  • 11. Although the assertive style is the preferred style, it may not always be appropriate. There may be situations when one of the other styles is more appropriate. For example, if the intruder is a three hundred-pound bully, let’s go for the passive style!
  • 12. It is an everyday occurrence. Life is an endless series of interactions that require negotiation. You are confronted daily with countless situations in which you are called upon to negotiate, to reach an agreement, or to settle a difference of opinion (e.g., negotiating bedtime with children or establishing a realistic workload with supervisor or subordinate).
  • 13. A key attitude for anyone negotiating a conflict is to “ walk a mile in my shoes”. Attempt to view the conflict through the other parties’ eyes. This will help a great deal in getting past perceptions that block resolution.
  • 14. Conflict is neither good nor bad. Conflict is inevitable. Conflict does not have to result in winners and losers. In conflict both parties tend to believe that their opinion is fact. Too often both parties see themselves as innocent victims who represent the side of truth and fairness. Too often both parties perceive all destructive acts carried out by others completely blind to identical acts carried out by self or those on ‘my’ side.
  • 15. Communication is the key to effective negotiation. What you say is often less important than how you say it. Tone Body language
  • 16. Understanding and recognition do not mean compromise and concession! Your own emotions and subconscious brain can hinder your ability to negotiate effectively.
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  • 20. It de-emphasizes personalities in favor of emphasizing the issues. In other words, it separates the person from the problem.
  • 21. The collaborative, or win-win, approach to negotiation is usually the most effective and most rewarding for both parties. However, there will be certain situations you will confront where the concept of compromise, or give-get, fits better.
  • 22. 1. Stop . Cool off. 2. Talk and listen to each other. 3 . Find out what you both need. 4. Brainstorm solutions. 5. Choose the idea you both like. 6. Make a plan . Go for it.
  • 23.   Attempting to control the final outcome of the decisions and actions of the party you are negotiating with. To succeed in negotiation, focus on the areas that you can control - your actions, decisions and emotions. Manage your anger – do not gunnysack!!!!
  • 24. “ Win-lose” approach In a zero sum game, the person who makes the first offer is at a disadvantage sets the outer limits of price, other terms Improve zero-sum negotiation skills by: Understanding your objectives Understanding the other side’s objectives www.ebaumsworld.com/video/watch/80747676/