Banish Your Inner Critic - HOW Interactive Conference, Boston
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Your inner critic is an unconscious deterrent that stands between the seeds of great ideas and the fruits of achievement, keeping you stuck by telling you you’re just faking it, that others have more talent, that you’ll never achieve the success you seek. Let's discover how to anatomize this pernicious inner force, and then learn techniques to banish this critic so that you can have the mental space and energy to let your true talents emerge -- and help you be a badass with your work.
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Banish Your Inner Critic - HOW Interactive Conference, Boston
- 1. Banish Your Inner Critic
- 2. Denise R. Jacobs HOW Interactive Conf w Boston, MA w 5 November 2015
- 4. Want the slides? Go here: Creativedo.se/hidcbos-ic
- 5. Photo by Derek Kearney Wait…What?!
- 6. Founder + CEO, The Creative Dose http://TheCreativeDose.com/
- 9. I was going to be a writer! Photo: Denise Jacobs
- 10. Instead of creativity Photo from Flickr.com
- 12. The voices in my head were merciless http://www.flickr.com/photos/epsos/4887528060/
- 13. I totally freaked out
- 14. I shouldn't be writing this I misrepresented myself I don't know enough This should be someone else’s book I’m going to look stupid Everyone will see that I’m a fake What if it's not good enough? What if I'm not good enough? No…really!
- 17. Pushed myself to burn-out http://www.flickr.com/photos/44085287@N05/4052943367/
- 18. My internal critical voices http://www.flickr.com/photos/mikeapalooza/553545517/
- 20. Physical evidence of fear http://www.flickr.com/photos/grumpyfeline/4626401443/
- 21. A different kind of fear Photo: Denise Jacobs
- 22. Internalized criticisms + fears https://www.flickr.com/photos/remoto/5313967682
- 23. = The Inner Critic https://www.flickr.com/photos/acerriteno/3484093889/
- 27. The enemy of creativity http://www.flickr.com/photos/richardwinchell/130344669/
- 29. Suppress generative impulses in the brain https://www.flickr.com/photos/birthintobeing/11841180046
- 35. “The parts of your brain that are responsible for self-monitoring are literally turned off during creative endeavors….Creative people have mastered the art of turning off [the inhibitive] part of their brains to let their ideas flow more smoothly, unleashing their imagination.” - Tina Seelig, InGenius
- 36. How to ID your Inner Critic http://www.flickr.com/photos/lambdachialpha/203904103/
- 37. Listen for internal critical talk http://brenebrown.com/2014/04/08/daring-interview-series-meet-gavin-aung/
- 38. “OMG, I’m SO busy!”
- 39. “I should have done more by now…” http://www.flickr.com/photos/kharied/3315558702/
- 40. “They’ll find out I’m a fraud”
- 42. “I don’t know enough” http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/6/66/Einstein_1921_by_F_Schmutzer.jpg
- 43. (You can be intimidated into this, btw)
- 44. “It needs to be FLAWLESS” http://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/
- 45. “I’ll do it tomorrow…” http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/
- 46. “Really, I’ll do it tomorrow.” http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/
- 47. “I will do it tomorrow!” http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/
- 48. Feed each other
- 49. Afflicts ALL of us! http://comediansincarsgettingcoffee.com/jimmy-fallon-the-unsinkable-legend-part-2 (@ 8:15)
- 50. “…I don’t have what these people want to see – they want to see a funny guy! That’s not me.” - Jerry Seinfeld, Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee https://www.flickr.com/photos/97477873@N00/13016287284/
- 51. *Everyone* has these thoughts https://www.flickr.com/photos/quinnanya/5788826472/
- 52. https://www.flickr.com/photos/dhinson/1290445055/ Instructions: 1) Write down one fear around your creativity 2) Crumple paper into ball Then…
- 53. 3) Throw across the room! http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-b1-baSAE8ZI/VDM3BbuiaFI/AAAAAAAABKk/l91FBGvSgkA/s1600/IMAGE_437.jpg
- 54. Sound familiar? Photo: Denise Jacobs
- 55. You’re not the only one https://www.flickr.com/photos/17843347@N05/4610644207/
- 57. We need brain management https://www.flickr.com/photos/arselectronica/13994747444
- 58. https://www.flickr.com/photos/nrbelex/2247397943/ “You must be unintimidated by your own thoughts because if you [try to create] with someone looking over your shoulder, you'll never [create].” – Nikki Giovanni
- 59. “The goal is to manage anxiety so that our energies are used for the productive and satisfying art of creating…
- 60. …rather than the destructive and debilitating art of self- torture. “ - Clare Warmke, Idea Revolution
- 62. Banish the Inner Critic? https://www.flickr.com/photos/31505964@N08/4691019168/
- 63. You can’t outrun the voices http://www.flickr.com/photos/wester/504925076/
- 65. Replace with “I choose/ I decide/ I will” https://www.flickr.com/photos/mstry-2525-gst/3312199285/
- 66. Say NO to Comparisons http://www.flickr.com/photos/suvodeb/2559017400/
- 67. “You cannot compare your insides to someone else’s outsides.”
- 68. You & what you produce is unique
- 70. (Btw, this your new mantra…) http://www.spunkysapphire.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/photo-1-e1406074730116.jpg
- 73. You will only experience impostor syndrome when you are competent and skilled. (re-read this as many times as necessary.)
- 78. (My personal version) Photo: Denise Jacobs
- 79. Cop a Power Pose
- 80. “Our bodies change our minds, our minds change our behavior, and our behavior changes our outcomes.” - Amy Cuddy, “Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are” TED talk
- 83. “Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order.” ― Anne Wilson Schaef
- 85. Perfectionists focus on the finished product… https://www.flickr.com/photos/phatcontroller/3667889959/
- 86. Rather than the process http://www.flickr.com/photos/spyndle/474122586/
- 87. “The Best” vs “The most” https://www.flickr.com/photos/villify/10871945326
- 88. Clear the pipes: Morning Pages https://www.flickr.com/photos/juliejordanscott/4970674253//
- 89. Be bad/make it ugly https://www.flickr.com/photos/kpwerker/6051104684
- 90. Embrace the “SFD” Twitter, circa 2006
- 93. Fear of being judged? https://www.flickr.com/photos/jdlasica/12825451433/
- 95. Reframe fear of failure http://www.flickr.com/photos/laughingsquid/2717325940/
- 96. http://culturecatch.com/files/images/after-earth.jpg “Fear is not real. It is a product of the thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.” - character of Cypher Raige, After Earth
- 97. Embrace failure and mistakez https://www.flickr.com/photos/stevendepolo/4498817330/
- 98. “Being right keeps us in place. Being wrong forces us to explore.” – Steven Johnson, Where Good Ideas Come From
- 99. Copy the #fail masters Photo: Denise Jacobs
- 101. “Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” - Henry Ford
- 102. Decouple performance from identity https://www.flickr.com/photos/krissen/6824608878
- 104. “Don’t let perfect become the enemy of good.” – Voltaire
- 106. The trick is not self-identifying… http://20px.com/blog/2013/09/06/a-field-guide-to-procrastinators/
- 107. Nor administering a dose of https://www.flickr.com/photos/116357579@N08/13178367583
- 108. Procrastinators are NOT lazy https://www.flickr.com/photos/code_martial/4145914957
- 109. The unknown can be paralyzing http://hub.salford.ac.uk/energymonitoring/wp-content/uploads/sites/7/2012/01/known-knowns1.jpg
- 113. Don’t do it, just get ready to Photo: Denise Jacobs
- 115. Time & Space Tricks http://www.flickr.com/photos/indraw/4857101224/
- 116. Eliminate distractions From “Shit Black Girls Say”, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXDpfhehb6I
- 117. Ignore to focus
- 118. Tools RescueTime.com HeyFocus.com Browser Extensions Firefox: LeechBlock Idderall Google Chrome: Strict Workflow StayFocusd Website Blocker Aids for digital blocking
- 120. Airplane/Do Not Disturb mode http://www.flickr.com/photos/pieterouwerkerk/699475144/
- 121. Make it a Sprint http://www.flickr.com/photos/lucamascaro/4975166968/
- 123. Remember this Photo: Denise Jacobs
- 128. I wrote my first book! Photo: Denise Jacobs
- 131. My own inner creative child Photo: Deloria Jacobs
- 132. Always reaching for perfection Photo: Denise Jacobs
- 133. “The rule is, jam to-morrow and jam yesterday—but never jam to-day.” “It MUST come sometimes to ‘jam to-day’,” Alice objected. “No, it can’t,” said the Queen. “It’s jam every OTHER day: to-day isn’t any OTHER day, you know.” — from Through the Looking Glass & What Alice Found There, by Lewis Carroll
- 134. “Jam” = Reward / Satisfaction https://www.flickr.com/photos/macati/2180421766
- 135. YOU NEVER GET JAM http://www.alice-in-wonderland.net/alicepic/through-the-looking-glass/2book42.jpg
- 136. By sharing my experience Photo: Deloria Jacobs
- 137. Show you there is an alternative https://www.flickr.com/photos/buttersponge/4955768144
- 138. https://www.flickr.com/photos/9422878@N08/9220121158/ “The creative adult is the child who survived after the world tried killing them, making them ‘grown up’….
- 139. …The creative adult is the child who survived the blandness of schooling, the unhelpful words of bad teachers, and the nay-saying ways of the world.” – Ursula K. L Guin https://www.flickr.com/photos/theburiedlife/2167001643/
- 140. By understanding this truth
- 141. You’ll look at yourself differently https://www.flickr.com/photos/edenpictures/3460562429
- 142. Your imperfect, amazing ideas http://www.flickr.com/photos/bcymet/3564484236/
- 144. The End Photo: Denise Jacobs
- 145. THE CREATIVE DOSE A Creativity + Innovation Collective Work Better. Create More. Create Betterness. Creative Thinking & Problem-solving Applying an Innovation Mindset Creative Collaboration Team Communication & Cohesion TheCreativeDose.com @thecreativedose
- 146. My upcoming book! Banish Your Inner Critic DeniseJacobs.com/InnerCritic 26 Effective Techniques for Unleashing Productive Creativity
- 147. Get the slides! Creativedo.se/hidcbos-ic
- 148. DeniseJacobs.com à Sign up on my mailing list! denise@denisejacobs.com twitter.com/denisejacobs facebook.com/denisejacobsdotcom slideshare.net/denisejacobs Connect! + Collaborate! Photo used with permission: http://www.flickr.com/photos/aarronwalter/4629078087/