The Fair Play Policy Institute

It is so exciting to see the amazing work our Certified Fair Play Method Facilitators are doing around the WORLD. Thank you, Lena Hoppe, for helping to spread the word about Fair Play!

Today is the last day to respond to our State of Parenting Survey in partnership with The Fair Play Policy Institute. If you haven't had a chance, take a few minutes and respond here: https://lnkd.in/gRJg4sWm #workingparents #parentalchallenges #reliablechildcare #parenting

One of the things we value most at Moms First is our community, and boy, do we have one hell of an extraordinary community. 💚 Last month, on the heels of our inaugural #MomsFirstSummit, we launched a petition urging CNN to ask about the child care crisis during the first presidential debate. And in just 25 days, nearly 15,000 of you raised your voices and elevated child care all the way to the presidential debate stage. A massive shout out to our amazing partners — Blue Star Families, Bobbie, Care.com, Count on Mothers, Equimundo: Center for Masculinities and Social Justice, The Fair Play Policy Institute, Happiest Baby (the maker of SNOO), LIFT, Inc., The National Association for Family Child Care (NAFCC), National Parents Union, Red Wine and Blue, ROE v BROS, The Mom Project, Share Our Strength, and Vivvi — for getting loud about this issue with us. This campaign was driven by the stories we hear from moms every day. And last week's debate only reinforced what we already knew: when moms unite and advocate for ourselves, we can make a powerful impact.

My wife and I split up and our relationship has never been better! No, we didn’t get divorced. We split up the mental, emotional and physical load in our home using Fair Play… And it ignited a shift in me… in my appreciation for the work my wife had been doing largely without me for so many years… and in the way I appreciated my job… of Dad. Here’s the thing about being a mom or a dad… It’s work. It is unpaid work. And if that work is imbalanced, it is resentment… And bickering, defensiveness, insecurity, shame, blame, fighting, conflict, yelling, crying…. And quite possibly a more painful kind of split. What Eve Rodsky helped me see, I can’t unsee. Everything that it takes to run a home is so much more than the tangible… And so much more IMPORTANT. When we don’t begin fatherhood journeys with parental leave, it perpetuates the idea that dads don’t matter and moms should handle it all. But dads are not only capable caregivers. Dads are needed. Our kids need us. Our partners need us. We need us. What I realized after becoming a Certified Fair Play Method Facilitator and a Center for Parental Leave Leadership Certified RETAIN Parental Leave Coach… The systems are poorly designed… They are set up so that we get in line and follow the rules… But the “rules” of engagement keep us disengaged. For dads, it keeps our worth tied to being ONLY a financial provider. I don’t know about you, but I won’t miss that work meeting when I’m gone, but I sure as hell will miss my kids and my wife. I’m a dad and I am a provider… I provide mental emotional and physical labor split equitably between my wife and I. I provide hugs and kisses for my kids. I provide meals that I prepare for my family. I provide time and attention and energy when we laugh together, cry together, play board games, read books, do homework, tell stories, watch movies, go on hikes... I provide care - diaper changing, bottle feedings, cleaning, taking the kids to the dentist or doctor, talking about hard things … And I will be there for the even harder stuff, like heartaches, sickness, grief and loss… Oh yeah, I provide money too, almost forgot about that …. maybe providing means more… My wife and I would’ve split up if Fair Play didn’t open my eyes that splitting up the load is a much better split than splitting up our family - a way to diminish resentment and repair fractures. Be well. Be kind. Do good. ❤️ Inward. - - - 👋 I’m Frederick and I help driven men unlock a life well-lived, not just well-worked.

💫Big Win Today!💫 I, along with my two amazing colleagues, Nikki Goldwater, Teresa Urbina, rocked the workshop on Strategies to Manage Household Responsibilities in the First Year hosted by Center for Parental Leave Leadership! We spoke about: 🌟 Unpacking how unconscious bias and unspoken expectations shape how tasks get 'assigned', and how to begin intentionally changing them in your home. 🌟 Exploring what the scope of infant care may look like for your family, highlighting the #invisiblelabor and #mentalload that keeps things moving. 🌟 How to develop a practice of self-reflection and shared language to discuss the labor of parenthood. 🌟 Identify strategies to have constructive conversations with your partner before or after baby arrives to help #sharetheload. 🌟 Practical tools, techniques and systems, such as The Fair Play Method by The Fair Play Policy Institute and Persist designed to streamline household management and foster collaboration between partners. We would love to do this workshop for companies and groups as well. If you would be interested in having this workshop at your company or your organization, please DM me!

"...even as an individual Solitaire, where you realize how wide the range of activities associated with the management of family life is, it has its value and is worth the time and small money. I recommend buying it with the book.” Thank you, Petr Pouchlý, for sharing your experience!

My wife and I split up and our relationship has never been better! No, we didn’t get divorced. We split up the mental, emotional and physical load in our home using Fair Play… And it ignited a shift in me… in my appreciation for the work my wife had been doing largely without me for so many years… and in the way I appreciated my job… of Dad. Here’s the thing about being a mom or a dad… It’s work. It is unpaid work. And if that work is imbalanced, it is resentment… And bickering, defensiveness, insecurity, shame, blame, fighting, conflict, yelling, crying…. And quite possibly a more painful kind of split. What Eve Rodsky helped me see, I can’t unsee. Everything that it takes to run a home is so much more than the tangible… And so much more IMPORTANT. When we don’t begin fatherhood journeys with parental leave, it perpetuates the idea that dads don’t matter and moms should handle it all. But dads are not only capable caregivers. Dads are needed. Our kids need us. Our partners need us. We need us. What I realized after becoming a Certified Fair Play Method Facilitator and a Center for Parental Leave Leadership Certified RETAIN Parental Leave Coach… The systems are poorly designed… They are set up so that we get in line and follow the rules… But the “rules” of engagement keep us disengaged. For dads, it keeps our worth tied to being ONLY a financial provider. I don’t know about you, but I won’t miss that work meeting when I’m gone, but I sure as hell will miss my kids and my wife. I’m a dad and I am a provider… I provide mental emotional and physical labor split equitably between my wife and I. I provide hugs and kisses for my kids. I provide meals that I prepare for my family. I provide time and attention and energy when we laugh together, cry together, play board games, read books, do homework, tell stories, watch movies, go on hikes... I provide care - diaper changing, bottle feedings, cleaning, taking the kids to the dentist or doctor, talking about hard things … And I will be there for the even harder stuff, like heartaches, sickness, grief and loss… Oh yeah, I provide money too, almost forgot about that …. maybe providing means more… My wife and I would’ve split up if Fair Play didn’t open my eyes that splitting up the load is a much better split than splitting up our family - a way to diminish resentment and repair fractures. Be well. Be kind. Do good. ❤️ Inward. - - - 👋 I’m Frederick and I help driven men unlock a life well-lived, not just well-worked.

Excited to share that we are partnering with Maple on their first State of Parenting Survey! Start the survey here: https://lnkd.in/giYkbJkv These findings will provide valuable insights into the support households need and help shape future solutions and policies. All survey responses will remain anonymous. This survey should take less than 5 minutes to complete.

Maple is proud to partner with The Fair Play Policy Institute on our first State of Parenting Survey. We invite you to participate! These findings will provide valuable insights into the support households need, and help shape future solutions and policies. All survey responses will remain anonymous. This survey should take less than 5 minutes to complete. Start the survey now and help make life better for families: https://lnkd.in/giYkbJkv