How to Set Up Discord Parental Controls

Once set up, your child's Discord activity is in the Family Center section

What to Know

  • On your child’s account: User Settings > Family Center > Connect with Parent > Reveal QR Code
  • On your account: Menu icon > user icon > Family Center > Connect with Teen, scan the QR code, tap Send Connection Request
  • On your child’s account: My Family, tap the checkmark in the incoming parent requests section, tap Accept Request.

This article explains how to set up Discord parental controls.

How to Set Up Discord Parental Controls

Discord offers limited parental controls in the form of Family Center, an opt-in tool parents can use to keep tabs on the Discord activity of their children. Family Center provides parents with an activity dashboard they can access through their Discord account, along with an email summary of activity sent out each week.

To set up Discord parental controls, you’ll need your own Discord account and access to your child’s Discord account. You can’t set up Family Center if your child doesn’t provide you with access to their account. You can access their account using their phone, the Discord desktop app, or the web app, but you’ll need to have the Discord app on your phone because the process requires you to scan a QR code.

Here’s how to set up Discord parental controls:

  1. Using the child’s Discord account, navigate to User Settings (gear icon).

    The gear icon highlighted in Discord.
  2. Select Family Center.

    Family Center highlighted in Discord user settings.
  3. Click Connect with Parent.

    Connect with Parent highlighted in Discord user settings.
  4. Click Reveal QR Code.

    Reveal QR Code highlighted in Discord.

    Don't allow anyone else to see this QR code.

  5. In the Discord app on your phone, tap the menu icon (three horizontal lines).

  6. Tap your user icon in the bottom right corner.

  7. Highlighted steps to get Family Center in Discord on an iPhone.

    Tap Family Center.

  8. Tap Connect with Teen.

  9. Aim your phone camera at the QR code to scan it.

  10. Tap Send Connection Request.

  11. Tap Close.

    Highlighted steps to initiate a connection with a teen on Discord on an iPhone.
  12. On your child’s account, tap My Family.

    My Family highlighted in Discord.
  13. In the INCOMING PARENT REQUESTS section, tap the check mark.

    The check mark highlighted in incoming parent requests in Discord.
  14. Tap Accept Request.

    Accept Request highlighted in Discord.
  15. Using the Discord app on your phone, tap the menu icon > user icon > Family Center to view your child's Discord activity.

    Highlighted steps to view your child's activity on Discord on an iPhone.

How to Filter Explicit Content From Your Child’s Discord Account

Discord doesn’t allow you to view or monitor your child’s direct messages or voice calls in Discord, but there is a setting that will automatically scan for and remove explicit content. This setting isn’t available through Family Center, so you’ll need access to your child’s Discord account to turn it on, and they can turn it off at any time.

Here’s how to set up safe direct messaging on your child’s Discord:

  1. Using your child’s Discord account, navigate to User Settings (gear icon).

    The gear icon highlighted in Discord.

    On the mobile app, tap the menu icon > profile icon.

  2. Select Privacy & Safety.

    Privacy & Safety highlighted in Discord.
  3. Select Filter all direct messages.

    Filter all direct messages highlighted in explicit image filter settings in Discord.

How to Block Strangers From Messaging Your Child

When your child joins a Discord channel, other members can also message your child. You can adjust a setting in the Privacy & Safety section to prevent strangers from messaging your child.

If a stranger obtains your child’s Discord ID, they can still send your child a friend request to initiate direct messages. Your child can deny any such friend request to prevent incoming messages.

Here’s how to prevent strangers from messaging your child:

  1. Using your child’s Discord account, navigate to User Settings (gear icon).

    The gear icon highlighted in Discord.

    On the mobile app, tap the menu icon > profile icon.

  2. Select Privacy & Safety.

    Privacy & Safety highlighted in Discord.
  3. Scroll down to SERVER PRIVACY DEFAULTS and tap the Enable message requests from server members you may not know toggle to turn it off.

    The Enable message requests from server members you may not know toggle highlighted in Discord.
  4. Tap the Allow direct messages from server members toggle to turn it off for additional protection.

    The Allow direct messages from server members toggle highlighted in Discord.

How Do Discord Parental Controls Work?

Discord parental controls are somewhat limited. Discord’s Family Center allows you to monitor some Discord activity, like how many servers your child has joined, how many direct messages they’ve sent, and how many voice calls they’ve participated in. But you can’t view their messages, place restrictions, block users, or anything else.

Discord doesn’t even allow you to turn Family Center on without access to your child’s Discord account, and there is no way to prevent a child from turning off any privacy protections you put in place on their account. If you want a deeper insight into your child’s activity, you’ll need to use a third-party parental control app.

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