Control Issues Quotes

“And I told him, I said: "One day you're going to miss the subway because it's not going to come. One of these days, it's going to break down and it's not going to come around and everyone else will just wait for the next one or will take the bus, or walk, or run to the next station: they will go on with their lives. And you're not going to be able to go on with your life! You'll be standing there, in the subway station, staring at the tube. Why? Because you think that everything has to happen perfectly and on time and when you think it's going to happen! Well guess what! That's not how things happen! And you'll be the only one who's not going to be able to go on with life, just because your subway broke down. So you know what, you've got to let go, you've got to know that things don't happen the way you think they're going to happen, but that's okay, because there's always the bus, there's always the next station...you can always take a cab.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“If you knew your potential to feel good, you would ask no one to be different so that you can feel good. You would free yourself of all of that cumbersome impossibility of needing to control the world, or control your mate, or control your child. You are the only one who creates your reality. For no one else can think for you, no one else can do it. It is only you, every bit of it you.”
― Esther Hicks

“It's weird, marriage. It's like this license that gives a person the legal right to control their spouse / their 'other half.”
― Jess C. Scott, Blind Leading Another

“It was one of those days when I was thinking too much, too fast. Only it was more like the thoughts had a mind of their own and going all by themselves at a hundred miles a second, and I was just sitting back, feeling the growing paranoia inside of me.”
― Sasha Mizaree

“I don't like when I can't control what reality is doing. Which is unfortunate because reality works independently of the things I want, and I have only a limited number of ways to influence it, none of which are guaranteed to work. I still want to keep tabs on reality, though. Just in case it tries to do anything sneaky. It makes me feel like I'm contributing. The illusion of control makes the helplessness seem more palatable. And when that illusion is taken away, I panic.”
― Allie Brosh, Hyperbole and a Half: Unfortunate Situations, Flawed Coping Mechanisms, Mayhem, and Other Things That Happened

“People turned against each other cannot turn against those responsible.”
― DaShanne Stokes

“The more we're thrown into conflict with each other through engineered distrust, the less able we are to unite against those responsible.”
― DaShanne Stokes

“You can’t control the weather, but that doesn’t stop some people from trying.”
― Frank Sonnenberg, Soul Food: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

“Stop trying to control the uncontrollable.”
― Frank Sonnenberg, Soul Food: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

“To take back your power in any given situation, focus on the things you can control. The thoughts you choose to think is usually the best place to start.”
― Anthon St. Maarten

“You see, I have trouble with authority. Whenever someone tells me to do something, I get the sudden and very strong urge to do the exact opposite. Sometimes I can control it.
But mostly I just lose.”
― Mina Rehman, A Princess's Guide to Dragon Domestication

“People like to catch lights and put them inside their jars, so they can say they're lightkeepers. They like to capture bolts of lightning, the aurora borealis, flames and rainbows. If you are any of these, your friends and family and random passersby are going to want to control you in one way or the other. Don't be captured. Don't be put into their jars.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“to make him the one
and it took me three years to realize
love doesn’t work like that”
― Rupi Kaur, Home Body

“Control leaves no room for trust.”
― Glennon Doyle, Untamed: Stop Pleasing, Start Living / A Toolkit for Modern Life

“The apotheosis of the controlling mind is monstrous and terrifying.”
― Stewart Stafford

“Attempting to constantly control everyone and everything around you is not only exhausting...it is also futile. The only real power you can achieve in this life is being in control of yourself.”
― Anthon St. Maarten

“All controlling behavior is a contractive reaction and misuse of power exacted to make another fulfill your conscious and unconscious needs. People who control others are often protecting themselves from being controlled. It is a survival mechanism ruled by fear.”
― Markus William Kasunich

“Where there is control there is no life. Control repulses all love and light.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Amantes Assemble: 100 Sonnets of Servant Sultans

“The drinking, the skipping school – all of it – was about regaining some sort of control. That night I felt there just might be enough magic in the world to help me through constant upheaval and loss. What I didn’t realize was that the more I drank, the less in control I was.”
― Sasha Martin, Life from Scratch: A Memoir of Food, Family, and Forgiveness

“I wouldn't consider myself a control freak, but I've had my moments. I've seen trouble coming and fought, fumed, and frazzled myself trying to control circumstances and situations. One of the most impossible things to control is something walking around on two legs called a human being. I've manipulated and thrown temper tantrums trying to get another person to behave the way that seemed best to me. After all, doesn't someone need to control the bad behaviors of others? But after fifty-one years of life on this planet, including thirty years of marriage, I've concluded that the only thing I can control is my attitude. Everything else is fantasy. I've tried to control my kids. I've tried to control my churches. I've tried to control my dog, Gavin. I've even tried to control Tina (not a good idea). A sure sign of when I'm trying to control things, people, or circumstances is that I get frustrated, develop a bad attitude, and usually end up angry.”
― Dave Samples, Messed Up Men of the Bible

“Those who boast of their dislike of horror movies are only revealing their inability to surrender control and have fun. Avoid.”
― Stewart Stafford

“I left the bedroom to judge distances in the hall. I was less comfortable in the rest of the flat but knew if I could make it to my room I had a chance. Wenzel's spare coat was slung on the door to the living room. I searched the pockets and found an envelope full of twenty pound notes and another roll of notes in the other pocket. How did he get so much money? We earned thirty pounds a day at the fruit and veg shop and half of my days pay went straight to him for rent.”
― Tracie Daily, Tracie's Story: Care Abuse Love Murder

“The principle is this:
Ask yourself, “Is this my problem or not?” There are 3 types of business in the world: mine, your, and God’s. We have to ask, “Whose business is it?”. I had decided to make someone else’s business and God’s business my business. My control tendencies were often lurking beneath the surface.”
― Dale Hanson Bourke, Second Calling: Passion and Purpose for the Rest of Your Life

“Much of the stress in our lives comes as a result of our insistence on maintaining the illusion of control. We so desperately want to be strong enough to handle the trials and tribulations of life that we literally drive ourselves into the ground rather than admit our desperate need. Often God allows us to reach the breaking point for our own good. Only in those moments of rare clarity that come from bottoming out will we allow ourselves to admit how little control we actually have. In those moments, the only thing we can do is throw ourselves headlong into the grace of God. In these moments, the pain and suffering actually drive us to him.”
― Kenneth Boa

“Trying to control everything that happens to you is unavailing to life's vulnerability.”
― Ojingiri Hannah

“All pain comes from the distance between where you are now and where you want to be; from the distance between what you have and what you want; the difference between who you are now and who you wish to become. And all joy comes from the constant flow in the river of life: flowing with the reality of what is, right here and right now, and moving freely into wherever direction that river takes you. Control leads to pain because control assumes that one knows better than life itself.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“I'd been in love, and I'd meant it- the happiness, the lust, the peace... I'd felt all of those things. Once.
...
But maybe those things had blinded me, too.

Maybe they'd been a blanket over my eyes about the temper. The need for control, the need to protect that ran so deep he'd locked me up. Like a prisoner.”
― Sarah J. Maas, A Court of Mist and Fury

“You’re scared of what you can’t control.”
― Becca Fitzpatrick, Hush, Hush

“Feel pity for the person who feels they must control all situations in their life and others, and must have things their way. They’ve spent most of their life feeling inferior, and not good enough. In reflection now, the slightest issue, not going their way, makes them feel out of control. Dear Lord, set them free from their own controlling, and self destructive impulses. In Jesus name we pray. Amen.”
― Ron Baratono

“Me di cuenta de que podía soportarlo todo: el frío que calaba mis ropas gastadas, la tristeza de mi absoluta miseria, el sordo horror de aquella casa sucia. Todo menos su autoridad sobre mí.”
― Carmen Laforet, Nada