I worked for four years in a company where the "BOSS" was a vengeful kid. Please don't ask me why I'm working for a guy like this. Sometimes we need a job.
The employer has proven himself as a toxic vengeful kid many times over the past years. For example, he badmouthed for no reason at all an old coworker to his new company (he has networking) because he chose to leave for a better position.
Now it is time for me to leave. I'm planning to announce it the next week, and my new job requires some references from my previous jobs. I don't have many options since this is my last job and the role experience is vital for my new job. And the fear comes when I think, "What if he does the same thing to me?"
How to approach this matter without triggering this guy's nerves?
I even considered bringing up a personal issue in my life not to make him believe that I was leaving because I had found something better.
And to be honest, I don't want to leave with bad relations.