Summary of the Problem
My GM does not like the name of my character but gives poor reasons for not liking it and is gung-ho to change aspects of my character for little reason. What do I do to protect my choices without being a problem player?
Context
My friend and I started a game of Pathfinder with a GM we found over reddit. He's very experienced with roleplaying games, going back to the 70s and we wanted to learn how to play Pathfinder for the first time (We both have several years of DnD 5e experience).
Other PCs already in the campaign:
Cleric, Dwarf: Tiglan Rogue, Goblin: Tweaky
Order of events:
We had a Session Zero with the GM where we talked about what characters we were thinking of and how certain mechanics work for new players. This Pathfinder world is entirely of his creation (according to him) but his world does contain most of every kind of archetype except for things like gunslingers or steampunk.
I decided to do a simple Human-Dromaar Barbarian to learn the game with. I told him that my name is Shine and pronounced it Shí-Né (Shee-nay). I told him how to spell it, he wrote it down and no problems after Session 0. Afterwards, he emailed us to send him a summary backstory and some other basic character stuff.
So I take storytelling for my characters so I went to work. I sent him a 5,000 word document explaining my character but the summary backstory for him was only 289 words.
Here is the starting part of the document with what I wrote for him to read. I explain that my character's birth name is Akzech and Shine is the name of the demon that possess me and what gives me my rage abilities. I took on the name of the demon for my story.
In Session 0, I told him this is what I wanted to do and asked if it was ok or if it fit in his world. He told me that it was flavor and I could do whatever I want with flavor as long as I write enough words about it.
Start of Conflict:
I received this email from him a few days later.
So at this point I'm very frustrated. Shine Ra'ncid is not a verb or a play on words, he is pronouncing the name incorrectly and thinking it’s a fairy name, and he obviously didn't read what I wrote for him (which he asked me to write for him) because he doesn't know that Shine is not my orc name.
A few days later, he sends this:
So now I'm even more frustrated because, again, he still thinks Shine is an orc name despite it not being one. Shine being a Japanese word for "death" does not have to be Japanese in his world. That wasn't the point I was making. It shouldn't matter what he sees when he writes the name down, it’s my name and I gave a very good reason for it being my name. He compares my well thought out name with a joke name that he used once (wtf?), which is so rude. And finally he just decides he has to change a major aspect of my character because he isn't understanding the simplest aspects of my character.
I sent him one final email clarifying my name isn't an orc name and that I can be a western orc. I also clarified that if his orcs are 'Tolkien-y' then Rancid is a perfectly acceptable orc name (Shagrat?).
Talking to him in person:
He basically told me he understood that Shine is not an orc name but he could not fathom why a Japanese demon would possess a western orc.
Few things about that:
- You play fantasy games and you have a custom world of your own, how can you be this uncreative and unimaginative?
- It’s thematically a Japanese demon but it does not have to be Japanese, I don't know why he is hung up on this.
- If he understood what I wrote we wouldn't be having this argument.
- He literally said he would accept anything as long as I put enough words to it (crazy enough, I explained this leap in logic for him in the 5,000 word document).
His conclusion after all of this was that I was taking this too seriously and he doesn't care because “It’s not going to come up at all.” Which is such a great thing to tell your players sarcasm.
So he starts this illogical argument and just dismisses me. Is this game hopeless, am I being unreasonable or am I able to salvage this without seeming like a problem player?