Note-1: Due to the question being subjective and opinion based nature, as well as due to it is touching a controversial issue, I have voted to close my own question, with keeping the existing answers.
Note-2: Tl,Dr: This question is NOT about ethics behind abortion. This question is about personal boundary about who can express an opinion (counselling or otherwise) and who can not.
Note-3: The Pro-choice (NOT "pro-abort") position is the widely and internationally accepted standard behaviour and ethics. The author of this question declares that there should not be any debate around whether a lady has the ultimate power to decide whether she want to continue pregnancy or not - regardless of physiological or psychological reason, or no reason at all. There could be other biological and philosophical debates and agnosticism regarding whether the foetus has pain or not, or how much right a foetus is entitled to, nonetheless; these debates shall not surpass the body-autonomy of the pregnant lady.
Note 4: I shall not trim this question, as it would lead to loss of context, therefore would be misleading.
Note 5: No answer shall be marked as "accepted"; as all the answer are valid, and addresses the part of this intersectional problem. I wrote an answer from an objective perspective mentioning all the existing standpoints from a statistics/ census view, concluded it is not solvable, and accepted it to pin the answer to top.
Response to comment - Why this question relevant to philosophy? It is about ethics and who has the right to say about what. Rights is a philosophical concept. Freedom of speech a philosophical concept. "Nothing about us without us" is also a philosophical problem.
Before I start this question I make a few contextual information thing clear.
I am an Indian citizen, forever been in India.
I do not have knowledge of Western way of life, and many of the Western ideologies.
I am a practicing Hindu.
I am biological male (though I am not strictly masculine).
Main Question:
Until very recently, I did not knew there is an abortion debate in the West (as well as recently in India), only that I am aware of misogyny and domestic violence in India as well as a very high rate of sex-selective abortion ("female foeticide") or forced (non-consensual) abortion of female embryos, that take place due to patriarchial inheritance.
Recently I discovered in social media that a ton of people are staunchly at anger and anguish towards me; while I took lot of time to understand the underlying implications.
I wrote "baby" instead of "foetus". In my native language, a foetus is indeed called a baby in my native language, and it sounds more aesthetic to me. So in English comments I used the term "baby". Also I have used the term "pregnant mother" instead of "pregnant lady who is not yet mother". I had used the term "foeticide" once or twice. It eventually triggered a ton of people. They started to remind me about my gender and my limit to speak about these matter. They started to call me bigot and loose character etc.
Eventually, I discovered a lot of things over internet, social media and research papers; which I never knew.
In our family tradition or traditional Hindu teaching, it has been forever told to me that the embryos are live, not only that, they feel pain, they kick on the pregnant lady's womb. They can respond and communicate with the pregnant person. I was told also that according to Hinduism, the unborn babies stay in a state of dream. Where they actively perceives memories from the past life.
After these online clashes, I discovered something else. I learnt that, lot of people thinks that the Embryos are non-living chemical systems, or hardly comparable to a tumor. The embryos are "non-human".
Also I acknowledge that the social media users were not immoral, they were against any kind of child abuse or child murder; rather their point is, abortion should be done on demand and without much thinking process to take into account - because according to them, the Embryo is nonliving, and even if it was considered as living, then it does not have any kind of pain or other feeling. And to them, most definitely the embryo is "not human", so is not entitled to any kind of human rights.
The argument went at a fierce place where I was unable to get a comprehensive grasp on the evolving concepts. The group of social media users told me to go through hysterectomy, although I have not understood why. I am not married and I do not do sex. To my cultural belief, sex is not for enjoyment but a sacred practice for procreation which should not be practiced rampantly, and I have been taught that illegitimate and non-consensual sex always have bad consequences.
My stance was like, yes, allow abortion as and when the lady demands it (with proper privacy and dignity), but before that, give the lady some cooling off period, and some counselling. Discuss the pros and cons, the possibilities and future joy of having a new companion. In case the pregnancy harms in career or creates future financial uncertainty, then how the financial reasons can be resolved before taking such a big decision. How paid maternity leaves can be improved. How can the workplace provide more accommodation for a child. Provide some documentaries about how human embryo is biologically alive. Explore alternate options. As well discuss the pro side of abortion, including how it can be less-painful than carry a full term pregnancy.
And if still the lady is willing to terminate the pregnancy, do that respectfully. After all, I strongly support that human being should be able to change the mind from a commitment at any point of time.
Unfortunately, this argument was interpreted as manipulation and misinformation. It caused me severe confusion and distress. In our home or family, these kind of situation is conventionally handled with empathy and "maternal instinct". But according to the subset of social media users, it is all misinformation and bigotry, perhaps manipulation and Nazism.
My question is basically, why it is not justified for me to have a voice about another living being? If a lady is doing a tattoo or something on her own body that would not be a debate. But regarding a decision of someone else' body (although growing inside her own body, risking her own health, I acknowledge), why any attempt to counselling/ meaningful dialogue would be considered manipulative or abusive?
I can be totally wrong here. Please educate me in a gentle manner. I apologise for any kind of inadvertant mistake that can be seen as hurtful.