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how do you figure out what the right portion sizes are, is it something you've always done? IMO this will come across as a compliment and she will think that the portions that she makes are and have always been exactly right for you. If you will tell her later that this is actually not the case, then I think it is mean to mislead her like that.
– kscherrer
Commented Nov 22, 2017 at 12:18
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@Cashbee I do agree to the issue, but the question still may be the best way to START the conversation. Eating cultures and portion sizes can be more tricky than one would think, especially across generations.
– Layna
Commented Nov 22, 2017 at 13:53
@Layna how is it better than asking for seconds, like Vylix suggests? It also starts a conversation, but without letting her think that you are content with the portion size. It is also more open to any kind of explanation why OP cannot have seconds (which will be the case, else this question would not have been asked).
– kscherrer
Commented Nov 22, 2017 at 14:05
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@Cashbee at it's core they have no obligation to offer/provide additional portions, or seconds, so asking for such out right can come accross rude. But then it depends on the tone. Asking for seconds doesn't necessarily mean they will offer an explanation for their portion sizes in the first place, wheras just asking does.
– JoeTomks
Commented Nov 22, 2017 at 14:18
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@Digitalsa1nt It is relevant because to me it seems to colour your answer in a more negative framing, as if you doubted it was actually the mother.
– Weckar E.
Commented Nov 23, 2017 at 13:02

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