Is it offensive to say 'condolences' to people with a relative who is hospitalised? Apparently there's this kind of assumption 'condolences' is sometimes reserved only to express sympathy/empathy re grief for actual death, so it's like some kind of jinx if I say to a potentially dying person. However, the assumption appears to be false eg HIMYM S07E22.
Please explain answer and provide sources.
Bounty note 1: please give references/sources (i already said sources above though). Eg for things like this
Because the word is so strongly associated with death, its use in a situation where a person might be going to die, could be taken as suggesting that the patient was as good as dead already. In such a situation it would be tactless, and potentially distressing, to say "Condolences". So, yes, it could be offensive to use the word when a relative has been hospitalised.
sounds like a personal opinion. sounds like a really good and well-founded opinion. but an opinion nevertheless
Bounty note 2: i'm a dumbass. the thing of davidlol from 2017 does say death only for UK. so davidlol are you arguing this: like in the UK definition of Cambridge it is death only?