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" You must get out your motherly instincts through your dogs!" Working in the DEI space, I have learned to be very sensitive to Microagressions and the language we use. Language matters! Even if your intent is not to hurt people, you do! The impact is there even if the internt wasn't! I do not have children (for various reasons that no one knows anything about). At the end of the day, it is by choice. I normally would not share but the other day, I was with a group of women, having a great time wining and dining, when suddenly one woman said, " You must get out your motherly instincts through your dogs!" I could not believe it...I was stunned in fact! And...around a group of ladies I was just getting to know. I went quiet but did not react! Words CUT people. I have learned that some people aren’t worth the emotional effort or work that goes into responding, especially since I had not build any relationship with this person. I decided to let it go because we had only just met and there was no investment in our relationship (and probably never will be). But my silence spoke volumes! Raven Solomon, a speaker, author, and researcher makes an interesting statement on what people say... "One does not have the “right” to an opinion about you, if they have not built up a rapport with you — or built up a “credit” in your relationship — this is necessary before they get to make withdrawals from you." She says that you should consider your relationship with the person who made the comment and how much time and energy you want to invest in the relationship. This is why I will be speaking at DisruptHR Halifax on the topic of Microagressions: Death by 1000 Papercuts. Hope you will join us! May 30th! 25 slides. 5 minutes. Huge Impact! https://lnkd.in/g74sryJa #disrupthr #wordsmatter #DEI #EDI #microagressions #watchyourwords

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"Be careful with your words. Once they are said, they can be only forgiven, not forgotten." 

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Jane Handforth

I help working Moms, just like you, create financial security, a comfortable retirement, and leave a family legacy. Life and Health Licensed in British Columbia and Alberta.

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Wow, what a thing to say to someone you barely know! Bambi’s mother “if you can’t say something nice…” comes to mind. Wish I could be there for your speech Shelly Elsliger, PPCC

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