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“But you don’t look like a gamer. And I mean it as a compliment.” — Strangers “Then you are not a gamer.” — Industry veteran I grew up playing tons of games in China. I still vividly remember the fun times playing Korean MMORPGs with childhood friends at internet cafes. Can you imagine we had to pay both publishers and internet cafes by the hour? New maps, cosmetic items, creatures, and weapons were dropped with every update. I was always jealous of the kids who could afford monthly subscriptions, giving them unlimited playtime. This was easily 15+ years before the concept of Game as a Service. My first ever online purchase on Chinese eBay was virtual items for Ragnarok Online because little Grace was good at math and knew it was way cheaper to buy a decent beginner set than to grind for crafting materials. When I moved onto other games, I sold my RO account and made a small profit. This was 20+ years before NFTs and discussions around digital ownership. In Asia, video games are a crucial part of our social lives. My cousin, who introduced me to World of Warcraft, Half-Life, Need for Speed, and many other exciting games when I was a little girl, met his wife through Honor of Kings. My sister-in-law jokes that if dating apps fail you, find someone in a game who will carry you - you see their true colors through PvP and teamwork. Gaming has always been fun and positive for me, and I never doubted my identity. Then moving here to the US was a culture shock. On one side, I was told I was too good to be a gamer because I dressed nicely, wasn't socially awkward, and didn't live in my parents' basement. On the other side, an industry veteran said in my face that I wasn't good enough to be a gamer because I didn't play certain genres competitively. I was frustrated and turned to Reddit for answers. Here are some top comments I found: “I remember putting 300+ hours into Skyrim, but feeling like I couldn't call myself a gamer because I didn't play Halo or League. You definitely aren't the only one who feels that way. ♥️ We were just blocked by years of gatekeeping ugh” “I don't refer to myself as gamer and I don't think I ever will. I love video games, but the term comes with so much baggage it wouldn't fit onto a container ship bc most of the dudes who the term was coined for and that unironically refer to themselves as gamers are not people I would like to be associated with.” “𝐈'𝐦 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐚 𝐠𝐚𝐦𝐞𝐫, 𝐈 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐲 𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐨 𝐠𝐚𝐦𝐞𝐬.” 🥲 ✨ Imagine a world where everyone who plays games can proudly call themselves gamers. ✨ Imagine the breakthroughs in storytelling and game design we could achieve if every gamer felt empowered to contribute their unique perspectives. ✨ Imagine the explosive growth of the industry if we shatter the stereotypes and gatekeeping that hold it back. Gaming is for everyone, regardless of how they look or which games they play. If you love games, you belong in this community. #videogames #inclusivity

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Audrey R.

Strategic Advisor, CxO For Hire, Occasional Angel

2mo

“Find someone who will carry you” - best dating advice ever 🤍

Charles London

VP, Creative at Scopely

1mo

Hi Grace! I would ask... Do you play games with passion, excitement and imagination? Do you spend money on games because it's worthwhile fun for you? Do you like to talk about the games you play with others who play them? Are you proud of your play? If you answer yes to any of these, then I think we have to say "sounds like you're a gamer!" regardless of whatever game it is. All fun is worthwhile. Value play!

Lol I did something very similar in my childhood with eBay and Ultima Online :)

Justin Berenbaum 🔜GamesCom

VP Strategic Planning at Xsolla & GM Xsolla Funding Club at Xsolla

2mo

It's why I've preferred the term "player" for a long time. Everyone looks like a game player to me and the best part is knowing you know more than most about "games" makes this even funnier!

Van Huyen Dang

Business Development Manager

2mo

I feel you~ I enjoy playing mobile games, but got myself a "mobile games are rubbish" to my face 🙄 Then of course I can't be considered as a gamer. Really wondering why a platform could make its content "rubbish".

Shauna Alexander

VP @ EMPIRE | Music & Gaming | BD & Strategy, Partnerships, Content Licensing

2mo

Tagging Anne-Margot Rodde who just posted a similar sentiment on her LinkedIn

Miguel Oliveira 🔜 GamesCom

Corporate Strategy, M&A, Product Strategy, Business Development @ Gamigo Group

2mo

I never understood why it’s so important to be or not to be a “gamer”. Nobody calls anybody a “radio listener” or “movie goer”, though (or maybe because) we all do it. That badge of honor (it used to be a batch of shame in the past), is just so meaningless, given the pervasiveness of that medium and the general adoption that it simply should not matter. Heck, my mom should be called a gamer…she puts 2-5 hours into her favorite puzzle games every day…but she could care less if you call her that or not. Labels are exactly that…labels that only lead to a society where people are put into our kept out of certain drawers. As somebody once said “other people’s opinion about you is none of your business.” Just go about enjoying your games and worry less about the others, is what I’m thinking.

Simon Davis

Co-Founder and CEO at Mighty Bear Games - We're hiring! Professional dodger of salespeople and recruiters.

2mo

My mother has been playing Candy Crush for several hours per day for over 10 years. The ridiculous people you described would claim that same person who has spent 1,000s of hours in a game isn't a gamer. The good thing is that as the industry grows and games become a larger part of the media landscape, their voices and influence diminish. These people are becoming increasingly irrelevant and confined to a couple of dark corners of the Internet.

Andjela Kusmuk 🦾

just another engineer, trying not to over-engineer stuff

2mo

Omg, is this sh*t still happening? I'm so sorry you have these experiences. This is where male colleagues can make a big difference. I remember Christian Lord step into a discussion where someone asked "And who exactly are you?" to say "SHE started at Dreamhack in the Network team well before me..." and go on to read the person my ENTIRE resume in esports by heart. No idea if he remembers that evening - but I thought wow, this guy is not only thinking about DEI, he is living DEI 🥰❤️ will never forget it, I've never feel more seen or safe in my professional life and tell that story to people all the time.

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"On the other side, an industry veteran said in my face that I wasn't good enough to be a gamer because I didn't play certain genres competitively." Whoever that was, they are the kind of person gaming community does not need and they should get the f out, they will not be missed. Ooohhhh, I'm fuming right now 🤬 😄 People who play games are by definition gamers, whoever disagrees either do not know what they are talking about or are toxic self-proclaimed gatekeepers who, repeating myself here, should get the f out of the hobby. Ending on a positive note, stealing your last sentence: "Gaming is for everyone, regardless of how they look or which games they play. If you love games, you belong in this community.". Peace & Love.

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