Timeline for My boss' new hire, a friend of his, is making advances on me
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| Mar 15, 2017 at 22:12 | comment | added | Tim B | Because otherwise you are accusing them of being an enabler of sexual harassment and friends to a sexual predator - and 90% of people when confronted by that prospect will reject the whole thing even when presented with proof rather than internalize that rather uncomfortable realization. By framing it as something they were not aware of you have a much higher chance of actually getting them to take action and accept the problem exists which is the biggest hurdle. | |
| Mar 15, 2017 at 22:08 | comment | added | Tim B | @AnthonyGrist I'm offering practical advice to improve her situation. Not trying to fix the world. Feel free to post an alternative answer but keep in mind things like cognitive dissonance. Her co-workers have already brushed off the complaints and think nothing serious is going on. Any attempt to make them think otherwise is unlikely to work and may in fact make them more resistant to the idea. Once they accept that something was happening they weren't aware of they will then start to re-evaluate everything else themselves which is the only way to convince anyone of anything. | |
| Mar 15, 2017 at 21:43 | comment | added | Anthony Grist | Yes, let's just reinforce a completely misguided idea about what actually constitutes sexual harassment to avoid a "pointless argument". It's not pointless and, frankly, it's not even an argument. Pretending that all but the very worst is merely "annoying" is horrendous advice. | |
| Mar 15, 2017 at 21:32 | comment | added | Tim B | @AnthonyGrist It's pointless to argue that point if people are saying/thinking that what they've witnessed is harmless. | |
| Mar 15, 2017 at 21:31 | comment | added | Anthony Grist | "Say "this is what is happening. In the company of others he is persistent and annoying. Whenever he gets a chance to catch me alone I'm being sexually harassed."" She's not being sexually harassed only when he can catch her alone... | |
| Mar 15, 2017 at 11:39 | comment | added | Stephan Bijzitter | I felt the same way reading this. This is just plain harassment. | |
| Mar 14, 2017 at 14:48 | history | answered | Tim B | CC BY-SA 3.0 |