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I felt the same way reading this. This is just plain harassment.
– Stephan Bijzitter
Commented Mar 15, 2017 at 11:39
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@AnthonyGrist It's pointless to argue that point if people are saying/thinking that what they've witnessed is harmless.
– Tim B
Commented Mar 15, 2017 at 21:32
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Yes, let's just reinforce a completely misguided idea about what actually constitutes sexual harassment to avoid a "pointless argument". It's not pointless and, frankly, it's not even an argument. Pretending that all but the very worst is merely "annoying" is horrendous advice.
– Anthony Grist
Commented Mar 15, 2017 at 21:43
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@AnthonyGrist I'm offering practical advice to improve her situation. Not trying to fix the world. Feel free to post an alternative answer but keep in mind things like cognitive dissonance. Her co-workers have already brushed off the complaints and think nothing serious is going on. Any attempt to make them think otherwise is unlikely to work and may in fact make them more resistant to the idea. Once they accept that something was happening they weren't aware of they will then start to re-evaluate everything else themselves which is the only way to convince anyone of anything.
– Tim B
Commented Mar 15, 2017 at 22:08
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Because otherwise you are accusing them of being an enabler of sexual harassment and friends to a sexual predator - and 90% of people when confronted by that prospect will reject the whole thing even when presented with proof rather than internalize that rather uncomfortable realization. By framing it as something they were not aware of you have a much higher chance of actually getting them to take action and accept the problem exists which is the biggest hurdle.
– Tim B
Commented Mar 15, 2017 at 22:12

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