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In my opinion, you are asking the wrong question as the solution to bullying by colleagues is to document, speakspeak up personally, andand escalate to management / HR (Assuming policies are being violated)  , not to shy away..

By shying away and attempting to use work from home as a method to avoid the problem, you are not contributing to ending the problematic behavior by him to you or potentially your other colleagues as @SF02 noted. If the bully sees his actions are having the desired effect on you (making you less available etc.)  , he could be empowered to become more abusive.

Although I have never encountered ill treatment towards me by colleagues before, I have witnessed instances of ill treatment of colleagues by other colleagues, although these were based on legally protected characteristics such as religion , race etc. that admittedly may not apply to you. I did not have to speak out or offer support and could have chosen to ignore such behavior. However, I chose to support my colleagues experiencing harassment.

What I would do:

  • Document the unprofessional behavior with whom, when, where, and in what circumstance

  • Clearly state that you don't appreciate the behavior, it'sits affect on you, and that you want the behavior to stop.

  • Clearly state if the behavior continues  , you will report the problem to management and / or HR (if policies are being violated and your manager was given an opportunity / is aware)

Do not be afraid to stand up for yourself and strongly consider taking a stance to mitigate the problem the bullying colleague poses, rather than using meekness to dodge the problem.

In my opinion, you are asking the wrong question as the solution to bullying by colleagues is to document, speak up personally, and escalate to management / HR (Assuming policies are being violated)  , not to shy away.

By shying away and attempting to use work from home as a method to avoid the problem, you are not contributing to ending the problematic behavior by him to you or potentially your other colleagues as @SF02 noted. If the bully sees his actions are having the desired effect on you (making you less available etc.)  , he could be empowered to become more abusive

Although I have never encountered ill treatment towards me by colleagues before, I have witnessed instances of ill treatment of colleagues by other colleagues, although these were based on legally protected characteristics such as religion , race etc. that admittedly may not apply to you. I did not have to speak out or offer support and could have chosen to ignore such behavior. However, I chose to support my colleagues experiencing harassment.

What I would do:

  • Document the unprofessional behavior with whom, when, where, and in what circumstance

  • Clearly state that you don't appreciate the behavior, it's affect on you, and that you want the behavior to stop.

  • Clearly state if the behavior continues  , you will report the problem to management and / or HR (if policies are being violated and your manager was given an opportunity / is aware)

Do not be afraid to stand up for yourself and strongly consider taking a stance to mitigate the problem the bullying colleague poses, rather than using meekness to dodge the problem

In my opinion, you are asking the wrong question as the solution to bullying by colleagues is to document, speak up personally, and escalate to management / HR (Assuming policies are being violated), not to shy away.

By shying away and attempting to use work from home as a method to avoid the problem, you are not contributing to ending the problematic behavior by him to you or potentially your other colleagues as @SF02 noted. If the bully sees his actions are having the desired effect on you (making you less available etc.), he could be empowered to become more abusive.

Although I have never encountered ill treatment towards me by colleagues before, I have witnessed instances of ill treatment of colleagues by other colleagues, although these were based on legally protected characteristics such as religion , race etc. that admittedly may not apply to you. I did not have to speak out or offer support and could have chosen to ignore such behavior. However, I chose to support my colleagues experiencing harassment.

What I would do:

  • Document the unprofessional behavior with whom, when, where, and in what circumstance

  • Clearly state that you don't appreciate the behavior, its affect on you, and that you want the behavior to stop

  • Clearly state if the behavior continues, you will report the problem to management and / or HR (if policies are being violated and your manager was given an opportunity / is aware)

Do not be afraid to stand up for yourself and strongly consider taking a stance to mitigate the problem the bullying colleague poses, rather than using meekness to dodge the problem.

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In my opinion, you are asking the wrong question as the solution to bullying by colleagues is to document, speak up personally, and escalate to management / HR (Assuming policies are being violated) , not to shy away.

By shying away and attempting to use work from home as a method to avoid the problem, you are not contributing to ending the problematic behavior by him to you or potentially your other colleagues as @SF02 noted. If the bully sees his actions are having the desired effect on you (making you less available etc.) , he could be empowered to become more abusive

Although I have never encountered ill treatment towards me by colleagues before, I have witnessed instances of ill treatment of colleagues by other colleagues, although these were based on legally protected characteristics such as religion , race etc. that admittedly may not apply to you. I did not have to speak out or offer support and could have chosen to ignore such behavior. However, I chose to support my colleagues experiencing harassment. 

What I would do:

  • Document the unprofessional behavior with whom, when, where, and in what circumstance

  • Clearly state that you don't appreciate the behavior, it's affect on you, and that you want the behavior to stop.

  • Clearly state if the behavior continues , you will report the problem to management and / or HR (if policies are being violated and your manager was given an opportunity / is aware)

Do not be afraid to stand up for yourself and strongly consider taking a stance to mitigate the problem the bullying colleague poses, rather than using meekness to dodge the problem

In my opinion, you are asking the wrong question as the solution to bullying by colleagues is to document, speak up personally, and escalate to management / HR (Assuming policies are being violated) , not to shy away.

By shying away and attempting to use work from home as a method to avoid the problem, you are not contributing to ending the problematic behavior by him to you or potentially your other colleagues as @SF02 noted. If the bully sees his actions are having the desired on you (making you less available etc.) , he could be empowered to become more abusive

Although I have never encountered ill treatment by colleagues before, I have witnessed instances of ill treatment of colleagues by other colleagues, although these were based on legally protected characteristics such as religion , race etc. that admittedly may not apply to you. What I would do:

  • Document the unprofessional behavior with whom, when, where, and in what circumstance

  • Clearly state that you don't appreciate the behavior, it's affect on you, and that you want the behavior to stop.

  • Clearly state if the behavior continues , you will report the problem to management and / or HR (if policies are being violated and your manager was given an opportunity / is aware)

Do not be afraid to stand up for yourself and strongly consider taking a stance to mitigate the problem the bullying colleague poses, rather than using meekness to dodge the problem

In my opinion, you are asking the wrong question as the solution to bullying by colleagues is to document, speak up personally, and escalate to management / HR (Assuming policies are being violated) , not to shy away.

By shying away and attempting to use work from home as a method to avoid the problem, you are not contributing to ending the problematic behavior by him to you or potentially your other colleagues as @SF02 noted. If the bully sees his actions are having the desired effect on you (making you less available etc.) , he could be empowered to become more abusive

Although I have never encountered ill treatment towards me by colleagues before, I have witnessed instances of ill treatment of colleagues by other colleagues, although these were based on legally protected characteristics such as religion , race etc. that admittedly may not apply to you. I did not have to speak out or offer support and could have chosen to ignore such behavior. However, I chose to support my colleagues experiencing harassment. 

What I would do:

  • Document the unprofessional behavior with whom, when, where, and in what circumstance

  • Clearly state that you don't appreciate the behavior, it's affect on you, and that you want the behavior to stop.

  • Clearly state if the behavior continues , you will report the problem to management and / or HR (if policies are being violated and your manager was given an opportunity / is aware)

Do not be afraid to stand up for yourself and strongly consider taking a stance to mitigate the problem the bullying colleague poses, rather than using meekness to dodge the problem

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Anthony
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In my opinion, you are asking the wrong question as the solution to bullying by colleagues is to document, speak up personally, and escalate to management / HR (Assuming policies are being violated) , not to shy away.

By shying away and attempting to use work from home as a method to avoid the problem, you are not contributing to ending the problematic behavior by him to you or potentially your other colleagues as @SF02 noted. If the bully sees his actions are having the desired on you (making you less available etc.) , he could be empowered to become more abusive

Although I have never encountered ill treatment by colleagues before, I have witnessed instances of ill treatment of colleagues by other colleagues, although these were based on legally protected characteristics such as religion , race etc. that admittedly may not apply to you. What I would do:

  • Document the unprofessional behavior with whom, when, where, and in what circumstance

  • Clearly state that you don't appreciate the behavior, it's affect on you, and that you want the behavior to stop.

  • Clearly state if the behavior continues , you will report the problem to management and / or HR (if policies are being violated and your manager was given an opportunity / is aware)

Do not be afraid to stand up for yourself and strongly consider taking a stance to mitigate the problem the bullying colleague poses, rather than using meekness to dodge the problem