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    Thank you!! :-)
    – zee
    Commented Aug 7, 2023 at 19:49
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    @JulieS I can confirm, having been bullied for a long time, that the only way to stop the bullying is to stand up. In my experience bullies tend to be cowards. They only bully a person because they can see that they will be able to do so. Record a session on your phone and escalate it. Commented Aug 8, 2023 at 5:17
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    "Clearly state", in writing. That way, after you submit that note in writing, if this needs to go to HR, you can send HR a word-for-word copy of what was presented. That may help HR use that in a way more favorable to you, but even better, it also sends the message more strongly even before getting to the HR stage. Just make sure to keep the document short, stating just what you need it to (identify the behavior, and say it must be stopped). Don't lengthen it with tons of supporting examples, as more length may increase chances of some detail working against you, best not being in writing.
    – TOOGAM
    Commented Aug 8, 2023 at 6:31
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    Agreed. It is not OP's fault, it is management's problem to fix (at the latest when pointed out by OP). competitive nature of SE: I've seen them; my current team has a very mutually supportive culture (one screws up, all help to fix, no git blame). Scrum Master is non-technical & sometimes leaves us to self-manage, we offload non-tech chores to him. Though team members are quite average, we have good productivity and a successful project launch (high-profile multinational) - probably key goals for good managers (->foster the right culture!) We are now even asked to bail out other projects.
    – frIT
    Commented Aug 8, 2023 at 13:24
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    By shying away and attempting to use work from home as a method to avoid the problem, you are not contributing to ending the problematic behavior by him to you - or even worse, you're taking that behaviour into your home, which should be your refuge.
    – Chris H
    Commented Aug 8, 2023 at 21:13