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this answer is phenomenal because it is empathetic, based on real experience, and actionable whether you're the team lead or any other coworker.
– Woodrow Barlow
Commented Jun 15, 2022 at 13:53
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There's a fifth option to offer the team member, if the bar/restaurant is willing to help: With the team member's consent, inform the bar/restaurant that this team member should be served alcohol-free drinks if an alcoholic drink is requested. I'll note that some bars offer this as a standard service. This removes temptation (patron won't be served alcohol even if they ask) and avoids any risk of peer pressure (patron can pretend to order alcohol to fit in with coworkers).
– Brian
Commented Jun 15, 2022 at 15:49
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@Brian That only works if everyone is served individually. If the whole table orders at once, it might be difficult for the waiters to ensure the right person gets the non-alcoholic version without anyone noticing.
– Llewellyn
Commented Jun 15, 2022 at 18:26
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@Brian even if you could do that, putting recovering alcoholics in a situation where everyone else is drinking (even if they can't drink themselves) can be a significant contributing factor to a regression, something no one should be comfortable with.
– asgallant
Commented Jun 15, 2022 at 21:06
Depending on the culture of the company/social environment being the guy who asks for de-emphasising alcohol at an event can in-and-of-itself be an action that comes with serious social repercussions. E.g. if your company regularly organises open-bar events, and words gets around that you are the guy who somehow made them stop this... it will not go down well.
– fgysin
Commented Jun 29, 2022 at 10:00

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