Timeline for Is it appropriate to speak up for a team member who can't drink due to addiction recovery when a company event is being planned?
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| Jun 17, 2022 at 0:06 | comment | added | Loren Pechtel | If someone is being pressured to drink the boss ought to speak up about that being improper. | |
| Jun 16, 2022 at 6:00 | comment | added | Wrzlprmft | you really cannot find one with no alcohol, no pork, no beef, no meat, no seafood, no gluten... – I don’t consider this comparison is valid. To pick the easiest example: Gluten intolerance has no stigma attached; in most restaurants you can just order a gluten-free without anybody even noticing; there is no culture of pressuring people into eating glutenous foods; and gluten-intolerant people are not prone to “re-lapse” or suffering otherwise when people are eating gluten around them. Sure, this does not fully translate to all your cases, but it should illustrate the differences. | |
| Jun 15, 2022 at 22:30 | comment | added | user32190 | This would also help alleviate pressure to drink: it wouldn't make sense for me to pressure you into drinking alcohol if I don't have an alcoholic beverage myself. | |
| Jun 15, 2022 at 22:28 | comment | added | user32190 | Just a comment: Unlike seafood and all that other stuff you mentioned, alcohol is pretty much universally harmful; sometimes it poses an immediate danger. So perhaps the real answer is: Move the venue to one that does not serve alcohol; if pressed for a reason, state that this move is for the health of the team. | |
| Jun 14, 2022 at 13:37 | comment | added | nvoigt♦ | @NotThatGuy It's not that you have to explain it to the same annoying guy over and over, but an event has so many people, if you have to explain you don't drink to every third or fourth, you are busy all evening. | |
| Jun 14, 2022 at 13:33 | comment | added | Peter M | As someone who doesn't eat trees, I am offended by your recycled cardboard dish and demand that it be taken off the menu immediately!!!! (and as someone who has worked in the pulp and paper industry I would not be eating that stuff !) | |
| Jun 14, 2022 at 12:51 | comment | added | NotThatGuy | Having to explain/decline something again and again all evening, or having people be unable to accept just a "no thanks", seems like a culture / event organisation problem. If I were in management at such an event, I'd try to make sure that doesn't happen. The idea of having specific tables for non-drinkers, vegans, etc. does "other" people who'd be at those tables, and kind of falls apart the moment someone would want to be at 2 tables, e.g. they're both a non-drinker and a vegan. | |
| Jun 14, 2022 at 6:58 | comment | added | Peter Cordes | The "dark basement" is dark because of vampires on your team? Or skin-cancer survivors? Or eye problems / migraines where bright sunlight glinting can trigger a reactoin? And it's a basement because of fear of heights, or because someone took "lowest common denominator" literally? And the cardboard is because some people are on diets, so we can't eat food with calories. :P | |
| Jun 14, 2022 at 5:49 | history | answered | nvoigt♦ | CC BY-SA 4.0 |