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@LouFancy, I've been down that path myself, unfortunately, there's not much more I can help with that but I'll let you blame me if that will help
– cdkMoose
Commented Sep 23, 2019 at 18:29
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@LouFancy: You don't "refuse" the request. You explain that it is not appropriate for your particular work environment, and that you are not in a position where you can change that. For a larger company, that could translate to "not allowed by HR". The key is to shift the blame.
– MSalters
Commented Sep 24, 2019 at 11:00
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Not only harmed the relationship, but failed as a leader independently of the relationship. You have authority, don't misuse it nor through ignorance let it be misapplied, especially when you or your family stand to gain...
– Stian
Commented Sep 24, 2019 at 18:04
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@cdkMoose I took this option and explained to my wife why it might seen inappropriate to do this. She was awesome like always and I feel a little silly for worrying about this.
– Lou Fancy
Commented Sep 24, 2019 at 20:08
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I would put it somewhere where people can donate or not donate if they want anonymously. I've seen this in a couple of offices and it worked well.
– user10399
Commented Sep 25, 2019 at 10:11

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