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    I might forget and move on from one person ignoring or refusing to acknowledge me once, but I have had a fairly comfortable life that has reinforced my sense of self confidence. If people did, or had done, it to me on a daily basis I would expect that it would eventually damage my mental health - i.e. cause me lasting harm. In effect 'death by a thousand cuts', if you will.
    – Isaac
    Commented Oct 11, 2019 at 13:23
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    And if SE makes it their job to manage protecting its users from potential "harm", they should so for all users (as individuals), not just one niche group.
    – dfhwze
    Commented Oct 14, 2019 at 4:33
  • This is where I'm at. I don't understand why a business-only, no-nonsense library of knowledge is wading into social issue at all. If people are being unkind to other people, remove the unkind people after warnings and discussion are not effective. The end. We're here for answers, any content that strays into the territory this CoC change addresses was already useless noise under the premise of the site.
    – Chris
    Commented Oct 15, 2019 at 2:22
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    @Chris That’s the point: if you want to remove unkind people you need rules that help define what kinds of things are unkind. Otherwise, it’s just up to the random whims of mods. And this whole situation had made it abundantly clear that people have very different ideas of what is and is not unkind. But this has all been hashed out a hundred times, and I’m not sure anyone left here cares to listen to anyone else anymore
    – divibisan
    Commented Oct 15, 2019 at 2:36
  • If you can see deleted posts on SO Can we have some consistency in moderation? Why was my custom comment flag declined? you can get some taste of the future that awaits us. It will be a nightmare.
    – Resistance Is Futile
    Commented Oct 15, 2019 at 8:41
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    @divibisan This will not remove unkind people, this has potential to ran over absolutely anyone. Also, pronouns are just one of things that people are sensitive about, we cannot possibly cater for everyones feelings all the time. And no matter how careful you are, someone will still get offended over nothing.
    – Resistance Is Futile
    Commented Oct 15, 2019 at 8:43
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    How: 1) The harm may be afflicted due to a feeling of rejection by 'the society' who is using mostly binary labels 'he' and 'she' that do not apply to all of us. This happens repeatedly and makes people with a non-binary gender feel lonely. Not being accepted (feeling unaccepted) as part of a group can have devastating effects on one's wellbeing. 2) The harm may be inflicted during social contacts where the other parties do not accept (are not enough willing to adjust) the use of a different pronoun. --- I agree it's difficult. The how is clear, but the proportionality of measures is not.
    – Sextus Empiricus
    Commented Oct 16, 2019 at 0:26
  • I'm not dying on this hill, Stack Overflow (the company) is. They drew a line in the sand that no one asked to be drawn and as a result those of us not willing to "die on that hill" are leaving.
    – Draco18s no longer trusts SE
    Commented Jan 5, 2020 at 22:17