Have you ever struggled to make a decision, often because you are confused fearing about outcome? Have you ever had a disagreement with yourself after making a decision feeling the other decision would have made your life a little easier? Fighting your inner conflict is common but how often you do signifies how important it is to learn how to deal with them.
Why do you end up in a conflict with yourself when you have control over your actions? Humans tend to live by different aspects, beliefs and goals. The universe presents numerous opportunities to us, but it is we who choose the best one evaluating what best suits us. It is only when we are unsure of what we want, we end up fighting our inner selves. The decisions we make then are highly influenced by our beliefs or goals than what we desire or love. This is when there is a war between our heart and our brain.
“The toughest battles are fought with ourselves inside our head, in the end, you win and lose at the same time”
Every choice we make has an opportunity cost with it. There is no perfect choice, no choice that can entertain everyone around you. It is in our hands to decide what to lose to gain what we believe is important to our goal. When I made my career choice two years ago, I was skeptical if it was the right choice or not.
I always loved writing and I was passionate to make a career out of it but I believed it was not something that could earn me more money. Yes, I would have loved every minute of writing and indeed it would have brought me enough money to look after myself. But I needed more, more to look after my family after half a decade because a man needs to provide for his family. My career choice cannot be dependent on me but on my future, the people who will be entering my life later and thus I made a career choice that promised me more money down the line. This job would provide me more money which was my belief and then I can provide for my family which was my goal.
Did I fight myself while making this decision? Yes, over a week of sleepless nights before I finally agreed to take up the job that I got. It all went well until recently when I began to feel, maybe, that I was a little too concerned about my future and the subjects that would enter my life later than about myself.
Life has not been like what I expected and I felt it would have been still better if I had pursued my passion. Yes, I made a decision with great uncertainty without really knowing what I wanted in my life. I was confused but I was also scared. In the end, it was fear that influenced my decision and I’m walking down the path I chose.
Every day, I fight with my inner conflict of quitting but it is not why I sacrificed my passion for. The battle had become endless, inside my head, unable to realise if I had won or lost the battle. But it is my goal that is keeping me running. One way to deal with our inner conflict is to be clear with what we want in our life, what is our purpose and where do we want to be in the future. It requires a lot of mental strength, fighting yourself. You need to be strong enough to take a stand.
As adults, we are responsible for the consequences of our actions and we must be brave enough to make a decision. It doesn’t matter if it is right or wrong. What matters is whether will you be standing up for yourself against yourself whenever you feel you have made a wrong decision. If you dare to fight for yourself against yourself, then you have already won that battle that is inside your head. It’s just a matter of time before when your goal will present itself to you. And that day, you will be proud that you didn’t give up.
