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    Sounds like an official complaint needs to be made against her - that is incredibly aggressive and unprofessional behaviour. As for your current situation, you may need to have a chat with your current supervisors - but, I would wait for some advice of some of the professors who are members here.
    – user70612
    Commented Apr 12, 2017 at 14:55
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    "she aggressively pursued a relationship with me" If this can be documented by emails or other reliable evidence, I think you definitely have something actionable to act on. However, the rest of what you write suggests that maybe you meant "relationship" in a more general sense, and not in a romantic sense. (Saying "pursued a relationship with me" usually means romantic, by the way.)
    – Dave L Renfro
    Commented Apr 12, 2017 at 15:46
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    It's quite likely that someone with the character that you describe already has quite a reputation within their field themselves (and I don't mean that in a positive way), and therefore if she were to attempt to interfere it might well fall on deaf ears.
    – user2390246
    Commented Apr 12, 2017 at 16:14
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    Yes, people like that exist and it is an unpleasant experience to be in their crosshairs. If she is consistently misbehaving, as you seem to suggest, her reputation precedes her. You may have some difficulties, but try not to lay tracks of what you are going to do and where you are going to go next. Try to cultivate other references which you can use. Do not give her material, information, anything you can avoid. She will be insulted about any way you take that is not hers, so there is nothing you can do to avoid her wrath. Be polite, but distance yourself as much as you can and hope she...
    – Captain Emacs
    Commented Apr 12, 2017 at 16:57
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    @JanIvan Hm, she did know, because I told her. I was taking her class at the time. Her response was, Yeah, that sounds hard, but things will get better soon. "Soon" turned out to be three months. I never called her a psychopath. (I don't think lacking empathy needs to be pathologized.) It sounds like you want me to empathize with her, and I certainly did on many occasions. I feel like this is very off-topic from my original question (are these threats actionable).
    – adspeed
    Commented Apr 13, 2017 at 12:16